There’s something I have learned over and over again….especially this last year…and it is something obvious that you might already have as a true and easy to understand and implement concept…..but for me…it has taken a while:
YOU CAN’T HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO HAVE IF YOU
HAVEN’T TAKEN THE TIME TO FIGURE OUT WHAT LIFE THAT IS……
*****and******
YOU CAN’T HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO HAVE IF YOU DON’T ASK FOR IT, WORK FOR IT
and WALK PAST EVERYTHING ELSE THAT DISTRACTS YOU FROM IT.
About 2 years ago I was deep into writing the curriculum for the second SOUL RESTORTION COURSE (SR2) which is a class that is designed specifically to help you “live your truth” and life the EXACT life that YOU want to live…that you were meant to live……I didn’t realize at that time how far away many of us are from living that life, because we just sort of go on autopilot and start riding a wave that is going somewhere….then, after enough years go by, we find ourselves unhappy, unsettled….not recognizing ourselves in the mirror…waking up after a year’s long sleep thinking “how on earth did I get here?” …then, a few things can happen after we come to that “wake up” point…..we can either decide that this is the best it’s going to get and “settle” (in which case, we will definitely wake up again later…..and again…until we get the message) OR….we can wake up and say “HEY, THIS IS NOT THE LIFE I AM SUPPOSED TO BE LIVING!!!”
Maybe you are surrounded by all of the people that you love….have a wonderful family and wonderful friends……but the deepest parts of you are in some kind of freezer waiting for the day that it’s time for them to get unthawed……..maybe you are surrounded by people who just happened to come into your life because you did not plan otherwise…and they are people who are destructive to your spirit….and now you feel like life just has to be this way forever. Maybe you do what you always wanted to do right now, maybe you don’t. Maybe you started out with good intentions…had goals and had dreams….and then something happened and it derailed you………and then it was just too hard to get back on track….and years went by and you find that you are now just sort of wandering around wondering what is supposed to happen next……..maybe you have even forgotten that YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE…AND THAT YOU GET TO CHOOSE and that you are very very very worth CHOOSING THE BEST LIFE for…….and because you have forgotten that, maybe you just do what other people want you to do, tell you to do and expect you do all the time. Maybe you have forgotten that you ever even had dreams or goals or a plan for your life.
This is what I see from my bed when I wake up in the morning….every morning for the last year, the sun coming up over the mountains and then over the little pond next to the river….this is just a little part of the forest that surrounds the very private, unfancy home I now live in…the place I belong….you will understand why I am showing you this photo a bit later…
A few years ago I found myself slogging through the fast lane……and I even got pretty good at it. I knew what to do and how to do it and it helped me to survive financially…helped my family….but then one day I woke up and thought…”how on earth did I get here?” …and even though I was surrounded by so many people that I loved, and I was what the world might call “successful” ..I was not living the life that my soul was wanting to live. My soul is a slow lane person…a campfire person….a barefoot in the grass person….a paint on my hands while I strum my guitar person…..a “let’s sit and talk for a while” person….a get out in the garden and dig in the dirt person…..a private, quiet artsy person….a person who needs to be treated with kindness and patience….a person who is not truly motivated by fast lane stuff in any way…..
Yet…there I was, in the fast lane. for. years. and. years. (and years)
Well, now I live in the slow lane….in fact, I live on a little country road that it doesn’t really matter whether there is a fast or slow lane, because hardly anyone else is even on the road at the same time. THAT IS WHERE I BELONG. THIS IS WHERE I BELONG.
I had to do the hard hard hard work of figuring out what I really, truly wanted………..and it was worth it…..but it shocked me. I did the work it took to dig in and find out who I am and what I am about and what I want and what I feel like my purpose is and when all was said and done…….I just wanted to be home, making art, hanging out with kind kindreds…who are my family and friends and other people I have been blessed to meet along the slow lane road….I wanted to help others as much as I can…I wanted to write…I wanted to have a roaring fire to sit next to as often as possible, good music, and I needed…..needed…needed….just like I always have….to be with the trees…in the trees…surrounded by trees. THAT WAS IT. My soul had no desire for trophies or titles or ANY of the stuff that I had spent so many years feeling like I HAD to chase to be a successful person. My soul said….”I just want you to come and sit by the fire with me and listen…..then I want you to paint what you hear and write what you hear…and share it with others when it will help……I want you to SLOW THE HECK DOWN. I WANT YOU TO QUIET THE HECK DOWN….I want you to start living instead of running and chasing. I want you to be you. I want you to look around and see this beautiful world and to look into the eyes of the people who love you. I want you to be happy with who you are and where you are and what you are and how you are.”
Well, friend…….I am crying a bit as I type this because so many memories along the way are coming back…..and thinking about how thankful I am that I am on my right road now (and please understand that there are fast lane people who are blissed out in the fast lane…because they are MEANT to be in the fast lane! ….there are all kinds of people!! Just that EVERY person needs to figure that out and get there…..because that is what is meant for all of us!!!)
Ok…if this is making you mad, or making you cry…it is probably because there’s a part of you that is screaming inside….maybe it is saying I AM STUCK HERE AND THERE IS NO WAY OUT! HOW DARE YOU TELL ME THAT PEOPLE GET TO CHOOSE!! I AM STUCK!!!! MY DECISIONS AND OTHER’S DECISIONS HAVE GOTTEN ME TOO STUCK TO EVER GET OUT OF THIS MESS!!! (I know that line, because I honestly used to feel that way…and I truly believed I was stuck where I was…because people depended on me, because I had already gotten too far in to get out, because I would look like a fool if I suddenly stood up and said…uhhh, excuse me everyone, I think I am lost and I need to get back home….especially after I had hung out there for so long…..) Anyway….if that is you, and you are feeling all sorts of uncomfortable emotions welling up inside of you……listen to them…..I guess I am writing this for YOU. I don’t know very many people who were as stuck in the muck as I was in as messy of way as I was…so I know for sure if I can get back on the right road, you can too……maybe you are even in the slow lane and needing to get back on the fast lane! Whatever…if you are feeling stuck in the wrong place……you are meant to be in the place that is right for YOU.
PLEASE KEEP READING THIS. I promise you that there is a way to dig into yourself to get out of the wrong life you might be a little bit in…and to get on the happy road you are supposed to be on, that you are wanting to be on…that you will THRIVE on. FIRST THING THOUGH…is to figure out what you really want to do…….
AND THAT IS HARD WORK. (but once you get started….it is OH SO FUN WORK)
Sooooooooooooooooooo where am I going with this???? Well……..I just want to share with you HOW I finally got here. I want to help you get there. I started that class almost a year ago…..made a whole bunch of little goals and big goals…..got brave and worked at them every day (and started over when I messed up lots of times) and I have pretty much accomplished every single goal to live the life that I designed by listening to my soul and my deepest truth. I just want to help you do that…..
And…that class starts up again TOMORROW…on October 16th, 2012…and you don’t have to have ever taken any other classes from us….this one stands on it’s own…but it is soooooo worth it. I am going to post some more photos here….just random ones from the millions of things we do in the class….along with photos from the last year that show me living this amazing “just right” little life I am living…..I am going to post EVERY DAY til the class starts to tell you something that I learned and something that I worked toward and something big that I changed in my life to get to this wonderful little life I am living now. So tune in…I will be sharing lots of MY answers to the 16 pages of questions you gotta answer in this class. (how else are you gonna figure out what life is JUST RIGHT for you??) CLICK HERE to learn more about the class
All in all……I am going to shamelessly keep trying to talk you into taking this class with me starting tomorrow….because I know it will change your life…it has changed the lives of thousands of women all over the world…I have met them, heard from them, talked to them, read their letters…….this stuff works. IT IS NOT EASY…because you have to dig deep to find the answers…but just imagine what it would be like to feel like you are living the life you want to really be living…..(and I think you will find that the life you want is pretty much right in front of your face for the most part….you just have not been seeing it….)
Ok….that’s enough. I know it’s so corny for me to say that I love you….but I really really really do. Part of the life I want to live is doing Brave Girls Club….and the reason I want to do it, is because I really really truly do love you all and want the best for you, want you to be happy, and want you to live your potential……and you all have ENORMOUS potential…and life can be so so soooo good. I want that for you.
xoxo
melody
LOTS MORE TO COME!!!!!
COME ON…DO THIS WITH US!!!!! CLICK HERE to learn more Here’s a video about the class too….
Would sure love to have you along…you will LOVE IT….this class is a complete blast and will make your life so happy!!






















I love your outlook on life! That video is fabulous too. Although I love the fast lane now, I know that someday I will wan to live in the slow lane and take more time to cherish the things about life.
I took Soul Restoration 2 and am thinking about taking it again. The first time I was just doing so much processing and I have so much work left to do on my book. Are the videos just the identical ones over again or are some of them refreshed?
If you have at any time in the past week or two been a tad frustrated with your life and or you surroundings, you owe it to yourself to take the SR classes. We always put ourselves on the backburner. Here is your chance to look at your life and see the value you have as a person. No regrets. Just do it. If you can’t justify doing it for yourself then do it for the ones you love. You will only love yourself more each day and what’s so wrong about that?
It’s so crazy how I can read something of yours & can relate so so much. I have done a lot of self-discovery over the last few years.. lots of molding… I was “almost there” right before I took SR1 and honestly, that class gave me my final push (so loved it!!!!) and I’ve never been happier.. so at at peace… so content with my life than I am right at this very moment. I felt like I was almost trapped by a certain situation in my life– for YEARS– something that sucked the joy and TRUTH out of my heart, and honestly, I feel SO FREE now! My life has done a 180… I did a lot of “soul searching” and discovered the things that bring me peace, joy, and happiness. I’ve always been a happy gal, but deception from someone very close to me seemed to steal that “inside joy” away. Digging deep within your soul takes courage, and work… lots of work. But ahhhh… once you get there, it is SO SO worth it and it’s SO SO beautiful!!!… You are such an encouragment to so many & God couldn’t have choosen a better path for you than He has. THIS is your calling… to help shine the light on so many others. I can’t wait until SR2
I’ve been counting down the days.
I took Soul Restoration 2 twice last year. It really, truly, absolutely was and is and will always be, LIFE CHANGING to me. I highly recommend anyone who wants to live, dream and think more positively about their direction in life to do the class. DO IT LADIES! Nothing has resonated with me more, I am always looking for new classes, new experiences and new websites and NOTHING compares to the messages, inspiration and work of Melody and Kathy.
I love you Melody & Kathy. When I met you at TCC I was so happy to tell you so. I tell everyone that they MUST take SR2 , that it will rock their world! I’m going to take it AGAIN….. this time with everything in mind that I’ve learned, adjusted, focused. I KNOW that because of SR2 I know what I want my life to look like—- and that IT IS POSSIBLE! I’ll be making a big move forward soon in locale, I can’t wait to work the class toward this end. It is going to be SOOOOOOOOOO awesome, I can’t wait! Thanks again for all you are and everything you do!
i wish i could come to your workshop!!!
I live in a small country lake community and my dream is to start having workshops like the ones you give!! i was so excieted to see someone is doing the same thing!!
I feel like i’m getting closer to my dream…I was just given 2 more wooded properties, that are next to mine for free!!! i can envision how it would be…I just dont know how it will support itself?
I think i need to experience it through you to help mine come true!!!
thanks for the inspiration and keep it coming…hugs, colleen
I stumbled across this post, and I feel immediately connected. I have been on my own journey the past year and a half or so, learning the same things about myself, almost exactly as you have described it here. I was putting the pressure on to become “successful” in the eyes as the world sees it, and not how my soul sees it. It sure can be exhausting living someone else’s life. Excited for both of us and the others out there who are learning who we have been created to be! Best of luck and many blessings…
Thank you, my sweet sweet friend, for unstucking me at Camp. You are THE BEST and I love you with all of my heart.
No one EVER has to be stuck, unless they are stuck just where they want to be. I just spent an amazing weekend with a group of amazing ladies (Sandi Tygar and friends) and I abandoned art on the boardwalk which was found by people who it was meant for, and I even created 3 new canvases. Not stuck. Never. ever. again. <3 Choose peace.
i would so love to win one of your classes. a part of me thinks it is something i need to do and then the other part of me says oh diana don’t be silly this is not for you.
i love reading your posts and your followers comments. it makes me think that there are people out there who really are … i don’t even know the words.
someday, i hope, i will be able to restore my soul.. a lot of turmoil is inside that i have squashed for years.
Oh Melody…..you are such a blessing to everyone. You express your thoughts in such a heart-felt way. I have…and will continue to take all of your classes over and over…….because you have been such a big part in helping me dig deep, understand, and value so many many things in my life. You seem to just know how to say it..teach it…inspire it…and live it……and that is joy! I love the picture of your big family…..I am a Brave Old Girl….and do not have much family left….I miss them so…..thanks for making me feel loved.
I soooo needed to read this today. I’ve taken SR1 and SR2. They have been two of the keys in getting me to where I am today.
Where am I today?
I’m on the edge–ready to jump–and FLY!
I’m letting go of some stuff I NEVER thought I could let go of. I’m still fearful of letting go of some relationships. I know it’s all going to happen when/how it needs to–IF I keep my eye on the prize. {I’m surprised how uncomfortable I feel doing the stuff I’ve always done!}
HUGE gratitude today for BGC and Melody and the classes.
I register this morning for Soul Restoration 2 and spent the day getting my supplies ready for tomorrow. When I got home this afternoon, I told my husband about this class and why I felt the need to be a part of this and then I read this post out loud…talk about describing how I feel and why I am doing this…OMGosh!!! This is exactly the way I am feeling…actually, I have been feeling this way for years! So, I am going to step out of my uncomfortable little box that I have been “STUCK” in and I am going to be BRAVE!
Wow! This made me cry. Some day I will take this class!!!
I wish I could take this class right now. I know it will truly touch the lives of each woman who is graced with the ability to do it. But, as I read through this post I realized that just because I can’t do the class doesn’t mean I can’t do the work. My work. Whatever that is. Those questions that would help me figure out where I need to be and what I need to be doing. So, thank you all for everything you do.
Love you love you love you.
So much truth.
Amen.
Ox
Lara
I am sitting here reading this over and over. I don’t read to comprehend well, and yet these words are speaking to me. Tears are running down my face, and in my heart in mind I feel I am already enrolled. Then I realize there is a cost of $99. Before disability and then being taking advantage of by a conman…$99 would have been a drop in the bucket…and yet now…it is a reminder that no matter how hard I try…I just cannot save the money to do the class. I am not spending frivolously, just on meds and medical stuff. This weekend my health worsened, I know I can make it come back. My heart broke…have no idea where to go with that. Bliss? I wish i knew it. I have immense love I share with all I encounter, but somehow I am just not living a life that represents my true soul. It took so much for me to write this tonight. In someways once I started the words just came. I know this class would help me heal, I pray for a way to participate on any level. I can believe this is me…someone who did for so many…now reduced to wishing. Thank goodness I have the will to wish. May love surround and comfort you all! <3
This blog entry couldn’t have come at a better time! That’s just how God works, His timing is always perfect!! My husband and I live in the same county we both grew up in. We have good jobs that we both earn a great living at, we own our own home and at 26 years old, we have a good foundation started here. BUT, that isn’t what makes our hearts sing any longer. In July, we were vacationing in the mountains, four hours away from home. We felt it spoke to our soul and that’s where our little family of 3 needed to be. So far, we have reached every goal that will allow us to move there in December! Sure, we could stay here…where our families are, everything we’ve ever known, our “comfort zone”…but, life is just too short! We are ready to slow down and enjoy every minute with each other and our son that we can because that’s what it’s all about, anyway. We can’t wait to be outside enjoying the woods, the water and the culture that our new neighborhood will bring. We’ve had a few bumps along the way, but I just see those as challenges to show ourselves we’re willing to put in the sweat it takes to make our dreams come true. It’s time to slow down and simplify…that’s our motto <3 Thank you, Melody, for reminding me to stay focused on that truth
Dearest Melody…
You were writing straight to my heart. Stuck with one foot stapled to the floor. My life changed 10yrs ago, I was running in the fast lane, the fast lane ran out of road. I am a slow lane person also. I burst into tears just the other day thinking how did i get here and how could i have possibly let so much time pass in emptiness. I do NOT want to be there any more…I am not a brave girl, but I am working on it. SR2 sounds like something that could move me forward.
You are a beautiful soul and i know you care and love each and everyone of us.
Hope to be able to take the class soon.
HUGS
toni
Melody,
I hopped over to this site based on an e-mail in my “in bin” this morning, and again, this is at just the right time as I felt I was able to really take the time and read your message…many times, I have to hit the mass “delete” button on my e-mails because I get overwhelmed with all of the “non” meaningful messages I get…marketing, sales, and such that I just don’t have time to read them all…and sometimes your e-mails are in that list:( I don’t give myself the time to read them…and then I continue to go through my life in that “fast lane” that I so want to get out of…but alas, like many others, I’ve gotten myself into a corner where the $$ speak louder than my soul…and I feel “guilty” for thinking I should be able to leave this “fast lane”…and like others, those that mean the most to me get what’s left at the end of the day, and I’m left feeling guilty again!
I would love to take one of your classes, but find it is hard to make such a huge commitment…are there slower paced classes for those of us that are REALLY “stuck”?, so we can really find our TRUTH, without having one more commitment that makes us feel overwhelmed even more?
I took both the soul classes last year. With a friend then on to the Mothers and Daughters. We are still working on the Mother Daughter, and that is okay, because our relationship is a lifetime of loving and learning.
I recommend the soul classes to everyone who is even a little interested in self work. This new class run comes at a timely moment for me. A reminder to keep investing my time and energy in what I love.
Thanks Ms Melody and Team. Keep smiling and creating one and all.
The quotes I receive each day are my life line!!!
I would like ot take soul restoration One as I am sure (or not) this is a pre-requisite for two.
Will you offer a payment plan on that and can I start it anytime?
Kisses,
Samara
p.s. you are absolutely stunning!
Hi Samara, Soul Restoration 1 is not a prerequisite to Soul Restoration 2 – they are independent of each other. There is no payment plan for our online classes, but we hope you will be able to join us! xoxo Kallie
I have to know…where did you get those paperclips from???? I must have some!!
I am answering the call and taking this course! I am so excited!!! I was in the fast lane but am back in the country, ready to meet this challenge.
Hi Brave Girls … Melody & Kathy,
) finish the course. Please let me know how to proceed to re-enroll. I greatly appreciate it. Peace,
I enrolled in Soul Restoration 2 and I guess I did not complete it in the time you allow (I was on lesson 3 when my account was suspended.) . I would love to complete the course. The past six months have been very busy & difficult – have an ailing mother who has taken much of my time the past year (since my father passed), and I have been working much more that I anticipated, so I really, truly would love to (& need to
Cyndy
I love looking at all your Loving thoughts and parts of your life…I too used to have that same great happy life. I miss my big family house with my sons and their friends always around. I miss being a part of their school functions. My wonderful sons are now 18 and 19 and they are doing so well living together in one of our houses that my ex and I own close to their college. I live alone now in a small apt.since I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and my big home was just too much to handle by myself. Sometimes I feel so useless now. I know in my heart that I am not but it tries to creep in….I send your wonderful videos to my friends when they are down and they love them! I work on my art as much as possible and it makes me feel better. If anyone knows about MS, you tend to lose your friends slowly but surely and you become alone. Not really sure why but it is something that some people with MS go through. They are still around but they are very busy in their own lives and we just can’t keep up due to we never know which days we will feel like participating. I am one of the strong ones but I still find myself sitting here alone and sad. I really miss the good ole days! Keep up the great work and remember that you are blessed to have a loving husband or mate, family and friends and also to be thankful for your health and well being!! “ONE LOVE”
Hi, Cyndy – I am forwarding your note to support@bravegirlsclub.com so that they can get you help with SR2 asap. Sending you love and best wishes for all you are shouldering!! xoxoxo kathy
perhaps one day I will be able to take one of these classes. they sound so absolutely wonderful and exactly what I need!
right now I am fighting cancer and going through the treatments. not really enjoying the journey, but sure am learning a lot about myself along the way. I stilll count my blessings every single day and that gives me such strength.
please keep these wonderful classes going. many of us aren’t able to sign up just yet, but have dreams of taking them one day….. thank you!