You have amazing ideas…..please let them be born. (yes, YOU.)

This is another one for all of you beautiful dreamers, creatives…makers, artists, visionaries…musicians…writers….mothers…gardeners…friends…lovers…..PEOPLE. It is in ALL of us.

And this is just more about what I talked about in THIS POST.

I am writing this because I am now 100% certain that I am not the only one who used to feel like I was the only one who feels this way. AND when we find that out…that we are not the only one…and ALSO that OTHERS thought THEY were the only one…..a whole bunch of little candles get lit…and what used to seem so dark now is light….and it’s not so scary….and not so confusing…and there’s nothing to feel ashamed about anymore. Because…it just IS….and it doesn’t separate us anymore, but it unifies us. That is soooo awesome.

This is one of those things.

 

I am finding that when I am in my creative cave, trying to let a new product line, or class, or a new phase of my marriage, or a serious issue with one of my children…..whatever sacred thing it is…..when I am in my cave of creative solitude trying to let something sacred be born creatively, it is a kind of difficult that has no words.

I used to not talk about it because it all felt so unexplainable…and so sacred/ridiculous/out-of-control. Embarrassing even. Humiliating sometimes. Because….when something is trying to be born….an idea….or something sacred….it is sort of all-consuming. No one seems to want to talk about it…..mostly I think, because there are no words. It doesn’t always feel good…..and then you have to explain/defend yourself to others why you are dedicating so much of your life and energy to something that is difficult and sometimes does not feel good. I have found that I hate having to defend myself. Especially when I am trying hard to just live as authentically as I can. When I am doing exactly what my deepest truth is telling me to do. But sometimes…..special people just need to know what the heck is going on with you. They wonder why you are doing what you are doing……

Well….the answer is because sometimes you can’t NOT do it. When an idea or a sacred something creative wants to be born…….it won’t let you NOT let it be born.

I used to think I was the only crazy person who dealt with this dilemma. So…I just didn’t explain my long bouts of creative isolation or brain-fogginess or distraction.

Then, I started to talk to a few of my creative friends and found that as women…..we are always trying/needing/feeling-called to birth SOMETHING. It is part of us, part of who we are….maybe it’s the same for men. I just feel like we are always on our way to creating SOMETHING. And sometimes we just try to hide that part of ourselves, because we think…WHO AM I TO CREATE ANYTHING? But, it still calls to us.

Some of us keep trying to resist it for years and years and years or even just for weeks or months….and truly, it is the worst kind of misery…..way worse than the uncomfortable parts of sitting on bed rest with your idea, nurturing and letting it be born the way it wants to be born….whether it’s a collage or a book or a song or a room needing to be decorated, or a journal entry or letter, or a marriage or a cake or a garden or a scarf to be knitted……or a class to be taught or a home to be built or a new life to be remade.

When we resist it we are miserable.

Sometimes the creative bed rest need only last a few hours, sometimes a few months….sometimes even longer….just depends.

And we get phonecalls and emails and text messages that say “are you mad at me?” or….”why haven’t you called….”  and we just don’t know how to say……I am in the middle of growing something sacred and it hurts and it also is beautiful and wonderful and exciting and real, and it is taking all of the energy that I have right now…………

and we don’t know how to ask…..”can you be patient with me? will you still be there when I can get up and get going again? When this thing is born?”

So we get up and do things that we shouldn’t be doing right now. We put our sacred something at risk to get up and do things that are not the most important things right now….things that satisfy the guilt we feel when we don’t know how to explain that right now…for this little short time, I am doing the most important thing that I know to be doing….I am letting something sacred be born.

We have to start letting ourselves go on creative bed rest. It is short…it is not forever. Most importantly…we have to let EACH OTHER go on creative bed rest and not get testy with each other when we have to decline invitations, or when we can’t return phonecalls or emails for a bit…..when we can’t do extra things…..it is temporary…but we must allow each other that. We all have a need to be creative. We need to allow each other that need.

AND THEN….when the beautiful sacred creative thing is born….we need to feel safe in sharing it with the world. We need to cheer each other on in the whole process, and then treat each other’s sacred something with sacredness and respect.

And most of all….we all just need to not really care too much what other’s think of our sacred something. Because that is not what it is about……it is about letting it be born, then loving it exactly how it is, protecting it as fiercely as we can,  and then letting it have a life of it’s own……no matter what the critics have to say.

We need to not have to feel afraid of what others will say or do if it is not good enough……..or if it is SO GOOD that it makes others feel sad or jealous or angry or whatever……..because sometimes…..OFTEN TIMES….the thing that wants to be born just HAD to be born…..and it is not in our control. We did not create something to be better or to turn heads…..or to impress or to be judged in any way. So if it is NOT GOOD ENOUGH or if it is TOO GOOD……..we are scared to share it once it is born. And many times, it was born FOR THE VERY PURPOSE TO SHARE WITH OTHERS….to bring JOY, BEAUTY, TRUTH, KNOWLEDGE, HAPPINESS, PEACE and UNDERSTANDING to the rest of us. Sometimes what is wanting to be born in us has NOTHING to do with us……..and we have to let it go out and have a life of it’s own.

Again…whether it is a song or a poem or a photograph or a painting or a meal or a novel relationship or an event or a solution to a problem. Sometimes we are the only way for it to be born….and if we did not stop and listen to that calling…it would never be born…..and someone, somewhere needed that EXACT thing….and that THING, that creative masterpiece was BORN with that purpose in mind.

…and then we knew it was worth it.

I write this to tell you to stick with it. I write this to tell the girl in Colorado who is writing a novel that you might not ever know why you have felt so called to put everything aside in your life aside from your family, and live in this deep loneliness, to finish it……but that you know that you MUST…and that it will be worth it! .And you are not alone!!!  And the clothing artist angel girl in Texas who pours her heart and soul into every beautiful masterpiece creates for the world because she wants everyone to feel her love and that’s how she shows it…I write this to the sweet beautiful artist in California who sits in her house making art videos to teach thousands across the world how to make art online…even though it’s so lonely sometimes, because she can’t NOT do it….it is her calling. I write this to the heartbroken soul in Florida who just keeps making art….night after night….because it proves to herself that she is listening to her soul….and because she CAN’T NOT make art…..it is healing her. I write this to the young grandma in Melba, Idaho who pours over every cookbook looking for the PERFECT recipes to feed to others so they know how loved they are. She can’t NOT…..it is one of her callings. I write this to the songwriters and the gardeners and the knitters and the jewelry makers and the painters and the yoga instructors and the dancers and the singers and the comedians and the quilters and the teachers. To all of us who are called to CREATE (and I believe this is all of us)….WE CAN’T NOT.

WE MUST.
AND WE MUST LET EACH OTHER.
WE MUST HELP EACH OTHER.

So if you must do it, you must. And some days it won’t feel good….and that is ok. Some days you will doubt yourself…and many days others will doubt you. Some days you will feel guilty and many days others will attempt to make you feel guilty. MANY days you will not understand and MANY MANY MANY more days others will not understand.

It is ok.
It has to be born.
Let it be born.

We need your light, your creativity, your unique contribution to the world.
YOU need to let it happen.
pass it on….pass on the love, the encouragement and the appreciation to every artist you know……
xoxo
melody

Comments

  1. says

    This is great!!!! I am a creative, I have scrapbooked over 15 years and I’m still raising kids and I work full-time and I’ll most likely work until I can retire, I’m new here and I know I’ll never ever read all the blogs and I also know I don’t have to read them all because it’s ok to take small steps and I trust I’ll come across the things I need to read to help me. I’m at a computer at work for 8 hours Monday through Friday so really the last thing I want to do is be on a computer again. I watched the cool whip video, it was funny, but on a serious note…it was sad. I know people get consumed with social media and I for one haven’t gotten consumed before too and sometimes I get consumed with my job and then I know it’s time to step back (or retreat) for awhile and rest and create. I want to start blogging about my creations, but I know I really don’t have the time in my life to do that right now so I know that I’m in a growing stage and I’m ok with that too. Anyway, this post was really great and I think we really are all trying to birth something everyday of our lives. I’m glad to be hear and I look forward to learning and sharing. I need to figure out how to change my icon pic – I think that is something I set up a few years ago when I created a word press account that sits waiting to be “birthed!”

  2. says

    From the {once} heartbroken soul in Florida, thank you. It is was this very birthing process you described that released me from so much. You captured it beautifully!

  3. Deborrah Morgan Simmons says

    Thank you for this site and thank you, Della for sharing it with me. There are a lot more of us out there than we knew, apparently!! I believe FEAR, holds us back from our on need to create. Once you let that go; amazing things happen. This is how I now teach my middle school art students. Don’t be afraid of what others will think or say; don’t be afraid to try something new!!
    Reading this site and looking at all the crazy, creative things that women from all over are doing now, inspires me everyday. Creative people feed off of creative people! Thanks again for sharing and remember: NO FEAR!

  4. Della Lemoine says

    YES! Thank-you for CREATING this site!!!
    Someone out there gets it! I thought that I was all alone with this wonderful chaos living in my head, my heart and my soul!
    This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us REJOICE and be glad in it! Psm 118:24.
    My definition of REJOICE is: to look, listen, smell, taste, touch and be amazed, then to soak it up and bask in it, BE THANKFUL and
    then, let it all spew forth from you as creation!

    So, whether you take an empty nest from a tree and bring it to life again with angel dust glitter and tiny clay eggs
    and hand it to someone as a gift to be enjoyed or you leave it there and bring others to see and marvel at the craftsmanship of nature, you are creating and sharing wonder, you have REJOICED!
    Why this urge to create??? Why? Why?
    An inherited trait, maybe?
    Ahhhh, aren’t we all children of the original, the alpha and omega of CREATION, our Heavenly Father!

  5. says

    Beautiful Charlotte! I can so relate & understand. Wow! I am grateful to my friend/graphic artist for sharing this page with me. She shared it in November, 2011 & I am just able to read it. The timing couldn’t have been any better. God is Good! Many blessing to you all.

    <3,
    Shan~

  6. says

    Melody, thank you for this! It is everything I feel & couldn’t put it into words for all of those around me. Thank you for helping me understand as I know being a creative is part of my calling, and have a better understanding of why it can be lonely & painful at times….yet exciting, because you know something new is brewing. I am for sure in my labor pains….I feel it coming soon. Please pray for the candle maker in Texas.

    Happy Creating!
    <3, Shan~

  7. Charlotte Phillips says

    I failed to mention above that I completely lost myself after spending a lifetime trying to please others…living for others. I finally heard my soul…after meeting a soul friend. Together we took turns diving down into the sores…the dark spots…the lonely spots…to find where we had left our inner child. We held the ropes as each dove down into the murky darkness and brought back one pearl at a time. Each time learning more things about ourselves and gathering new tools. We crawled into our private caves and listened to the stillness…we had to pull away from almost everyone except our families. We somehow did this while being a wife…mother…daughter. But we had to feel the feeling we had resisted when we disappointed others as we twisted in our cocoons. One day on a trip to Florida…after spending 2 days alone…with without our roles…mom….wife…daughter we discovered that there was no one else there. We wanted to run back into those roles. We were scared to death to feel the loneliness. We realized we didn’t have a just “ME”.
    We had to go to the place we had resisted our entire lives…we had to face being “selfish”. We learned that there is a balance between selfish and selfless and the only way to find it was to allow the pendulum to swing back and forth. It was not easy…it was not without pain…it was not without loneliness… but we did discover this beautiful child. She was very dirty…lonely…sad…mad…frustrated…(the ego part) but she was also very loving…patient…tender…delicate…creative…funny…joyful…peaceful (the spirit part(. When we embraced this precious child…we asked for her forgiveness… we knew we had lost her somewhere along the way. But we had found her and we would not leave her again…There are days that we forget to put her on top of our awareness…she forgives for she knows we are learning. But we come back and back and each time we re-member how precious she is. She has given much….she allows us to see through her eyes…I see and feel the blue skies and warm bright sun…the flowers…birds…bees…colors….people…love ones…I taste more deeply… I hear more clearly. She gave me a whole way of looking at the world …of feeling the world. She gave me …ME. We are joining as ONE…and in that ONENESS I am connecting more deeply with others. Thank you for these wonderful words. You are touching others where they so want to be touched…the heart….the soul…the spirit…the mind…the body. Thank you and blessing to you!

    • Sheena says

      Thankyou for this, I so relate to these feelings. I was to afraid to draw and paint for 42 years, life took over in all the roles you mentioned. In the last year the art forums have helped and through one of them I have been guided to this amazing site, where another soul has put into words my journey and you know you are not alone with the feelings you are experiencing, it helps and encourages you to keep going, thank you.

Trackbacks

  1. Brave Girls Club | Blog | A love letter to every artist of every ……

    […]No one seems to want to talk about it…..mostly I think, because there are no words. It doesn’t always feel good…..and then you have to explain/defend yourself to others why you are dedicating so much of your life and energy to something … And m…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *