It happened after a LONG and emotional day working at Brave Girls Headquarters. Melody and I were getting ready to leave the office; the sun had long set, yet it was glowing white outside – a reflection of the street lights bouncing off the ice and snow. So much had happened this week, and we are both exhausted and ready for the chance to get home and be still with our families and have a chance to relax and recharge a little bit. We stepped out into the crisp winter night air. Breathing in and out, our breath was visible as the warmth reacted to the chill in the air. We wished each other a peaceful evening and rejoiced in the many victories and accomplishments of the day, and were ready to start on the journey home.
That is when we saw it!
A car. Sitting right in the middle of the approach to our little office parking lot. It was just sitting there, all alone, quiet and dark with not a soul to be seen, yet the flashers were blinking enthusiastically lighting up the otherwise dark parking lot. After closer inspection….it was clear that the driver had somewhere they needed to be. Quickly. And in a moment of desperation, they had turned on their flashers and simply… left. What kind of person would do that? How did they not realize the situation they were leaving behind? We were at an impasse. Stopped in our tracks. A total roadblock. There was no room on either side of this car to fit through and exit the parking lot, and the huge piles of snow that were left behind as the plows had cleared the road certainly eliminated any possibility of escape. We were stuck.
And that’s when I felt it! Anger! Real anger. I have places I need to be, a destination that had a tight window to reach, and family at home. Frustration. There was clearly no way out of this situation. Have you ever felt that way?
It took just a few seconds really for cooler heads to prevail. Further exploration led to noticing the parking lot for the funeral home next door was full. Meaning, that someone’s life was being remembered and celebrated, maybe mourned, right next door. It was very clear that this person, the owner of the stranded and abandoned car, with plates from a neighboring state, was next door attending the service. My heart immediately softened and I was filled with compassion and understanding, a kind of love, realizing how desperate this fellow human must have felt to be here… in this situation, given the fragile conditions that were present. Can you imagine? I caught my soul whispering to my heart, ‘What would you have done?’ The realization of the situation became pretty evident that we could be there for a little while. So, we waited.
It only took a few minutes before the driver of the car returned. He was a nice looking older man who was dressed very nicely, Sunday best from head to toe. Upon realizing what he had done, he was instantly embarrassed and his shaky voice began to offer sincere apology. He expressed that he was here visiting from out of state for his brother’s funeral service and had planned to pull into our small lot and use the space to turn around and then venture back to the lot on the other side of the street. The horrible conditions that have accompanied the Idaho winter need only be described with one word. EPIC. Like the record-breaking-snowfall-of-the-century kind of epic. This has left our roads in horrible shape with massive pot holes and high frozen mounds of ice on snow that create a type of “bumper-bowling driving” on every road. His back wheels had bottomed out in the pot holes and all four tires were just spinning. Spinning and spinning not able to gain any traction. Leaving him spinning, stuck!
A little bit of farm girl ingenuity that involved cardboard under his back tires, and some good old fashioned muscle meant we had him out in no time at all. He expressed much gratitude and sincere heartfelt apologies; the kind that are born from that emotional place you only know from experience and trials, you know the kind I am talking about…. where your soul connects to another soul in complete understanding. It was that kind of connection. He nodded and waved, and was on his way.
We were free!
I made it to my destination just in time and sooner than later I was headed home, finding my way through the dense fog that was all encompassing. It felt surreal, like out of a movie in a way. It almost made me lose my way and question the direction I was going. It was while navigating through that thick fog I noticed the symbolic and literal meaning of the experience I had just had. In my task-oriented and selfish desire to go about my business and be on my merry way, the emotions I encountered were not good ones…anger, frustration, confusion. I put myself in this fellow’s situation and you know what I realized? I am sure that he was experiencing the exact same emotions. We were both “spinning” in a way. My heart helped me see the symbolic lesson that I was to learn. Apart…we were both literally in the same boat. Stuck. Blocked. Not able to move. Two separate people, coming from different places in our lives and very different human experiences I am sure, yet…we were in exactly the same spot. We shared a very similar goal and the desires of our hearts were the same, and yet…here we were, completely dependent on each other. Neither of us able to accomplish the goal at hand on our own. We needed each other. We needed each other’s experience, or lack of experience and expertise. We just flat out NEEDED EACH OTHER. And once we combined our efforts and energies, we were thrust into a situation where every little thing we wished to accomplish was instantly achievable.
How much of our lives are like this? We are on our own little path, carving out our way, doing all that we can to make a difference in the world and be noticed and loved, yet on our own that is an impossible task. We need each other. Have you ever felt yourself “spinning?” It takes bravery, but the perfect remedy for that out of control spiraling and spinning feeling is to look outside of ourselves and our own little spheres of existence and instead look into the eyes and souls of the humans that surround us! We are all in this together and we all want the exact same thing. We are utterly and completely dependent on each other to make it through. From now on, I will be brave, and try to live brave, and notice the opportunities that are present every single day; chances to pitch in and help someone in need. I feel like if I/you really want to change the world…. this is how it’s done. Living and Loving.
It was a lesson I won’t soon forget. I view it as an opportunity for my Truthteller to interrupt my busy distracted life and to give me the possibility of seeing a better way, a tender mercy if you will. My heart was forever changed and I will move forward with heart and soul looking outward, really seeing those around me. I am hoping that you will be motivated to do the exact same thing!
Let’s LIVE BRAVE!!! #livebrave #getoutandlive #getoutandlove #stopspinning #bravegirlsclub #stopspinning