As many of you know, we said goodbye to our son, Trevor, a couple of weeks ago. I’m not sure of the words to describe what life has been like since then. Even if they do exist, I’m not sure I’m ready to find them yet. What I do want to say is thank you from the deepest part of our souls. Our family has received an outpouring of love that has truly held us up on the hardest days.
One thing love does is to show up when things are hard. What our family learned (again) during this experience is that love shows up in different ways, but no matter how it shows up it is deeply meaningful. For us, it showed up as cards, phone calls, Facebook messages and texts. Love showed up in hugs and hand-squeezes…it showed up in beautiful flowers. It showed up as generous gifts and handmade cards for his children. It showed up in person as people showed up with meals and treats, and in some very touching visits from friends and family at Trevor’s funeral.
Thank you for showing up for us in so many ways. Thank you for holding space for our family, for your prayers, and your thoughts. Thank you for noticing and mentioning how handsome our boy was…what warm and gentle eyes he had. Thank you for your concern and heartache for his children.
To those who knew Trevor, thank you for sharing with us your stories and your memories and for the glimpses into the parts of his life that we didn’t get to see. Thank you to all those who attended his service and for helping us say goodbye to him for now.
It’s always unsettling to notice the world continue to move forward as if nothing has happened when your entire universe seems to have crashed. Thank you for pausing in your world to honor our precious son, and to grieve with us even if for just a moment. Thank you for taking a minute to stand on our path with us and hold us up with your words and your prayers and your kindness.
We will always remember the love you have shown to our family.
kathy & family
PS. If you want to know more about our son, I have included his obituary and some photos below. He was a genuinely good man and a beloved gentle soul…he is already profoundly missed.
TREVOR C. WILKINS – OBITUARY
Trevor Clayton Wilkins, age 39, of Salt Lake City, Utah, passed away unexpectedly due to illness on January 24, 2017. Trevor was born on August 26, 1977, in Boise, Idaho to Jackie Neves Buie and Kurtis Wilkins. He spent most of his childhood in South Jordan, Utah where he displayed a profound love, empathy and compassion for animals – big and small. He graduated from Bingham High School in 1995.
From an early age, he was interested in tinkering with, improving and reselling anything with a motor, and this passion stayed with him all of his abbreviated life. Trevor found professional fulfillment and success working as a salesman, finance manager, and sales manager for Ken Garff, where he was known by colleagues and customers alike to be intelligent, soft-spoken, fun, silly, sweet and loving.
Trevor’s true love and life’s calling, however, was raising his children, with a soft voice and a gentle hand. Anything that he did in life – any achievement, any success – was for the betterment of their lives.
First impressions of Trevor were often based upon his physical stature – he was a giant among men. But even his great physical stature was completely overwhelmed by his spiritual, moral, and emotional greatness – all realized within moments of meeting him. This gentle giant leaves a hole in the world that is countless times larger than he was.
Trevor is survived by his children, Kaylee, Aliyah, and Rykr; parents, Jackie Neves Buie (Todd) and Kurtis & Kathy Wilkins; brothers, Jamison (Memorie), Tucker (Christy), and Jake (Ashlee) Wilkins, Joshua Brockbank, Spencer Buie, Casey Buie; sisters, Kallie Maughan (Jeff), Chelsea Merrill (Luke), Angie and Tess Wilkins, and Amber Buie.