Dear Frustrated Soul,
There is an awful lot that we just don’t see…and often our default reaction is to assume. This hurts all of us, doesn’t it? We are really good at deciding “what it must mean” and we are very good at filling in the blanks and putting words into other’s mouths, deciding what they must think and what they must feel.
In this human experience, we like to make sense of things….we like to know exactly what things are and what they will do…we like to decide how it’s going to turn out.
Isn’t this silly that we do this? People aren’t things. How could we ever know what someone else is really doing or thinking or planning? How could we ever know for sure what it means when someone is looking at us a certain way, or someone didn’t show up, or someone did or said something that we weren’t expecting.
Let’s all think about what this might feel like if someone did this to us, friend. Or what it feels like when others DO do this to us.
There is a better way. We can give each other grace. We can ask more questions rather than assuming or believing what we heard from someone else, or what we decided in our own head. We can think the best of each other and remember that everyone is trying to figure out life, just like we are.
You are a good person with a beautiful heart. You can make such a difference. One of the best ways is to decide not to assume anything about anyone….and to always get more information before we make a decision about someone…and especially to give each other grace.
You are so very loved.