Dear Doing-Your-Best Soul,
Somewhere along the way we get taught that mistakes are bad. So, then we do EVERYTHING we can to never make mistakes. That is really hard. So sometimes we just don’t do anything because we are scared of making a mistake. Then we get the courage to try. But then…no matter how much we plan, no matter how careful we are, no matter how experienced we are…we make mistakes. Sometimes we make mistakes in spite of how much we’ve tried not to…and sometimes we make mistakes because we are tired and so we miss some things. Sometimes we even make mistakes because we are just flat out careless. We all do this.
The fact is, friend…we ALL make mistakes.
What if we just came to terms with this. What if we just said to ourselves “I am going to make some mistakes”? What if? That doesn’t mean we plan to make mistakes, it just means that we plan for what we will do when we DO make mistakes. Some of the things we could do are:
1. We could learn from our mistakes
2. We could make a different plan for next time
3. We could forgive ourselves and others, knowing that mistakes are part of the human experience
4. We could congratulate ourselves and others for trying brave new things…because we often make mistakes when we are trying something new
Doesn’t that feel better? Mistakes are just part of the deal, dear soul…they just are.
No shame, no blame. Do a little better every day. When we know better, we do better. And we can never make so many mistakes that we are no longer valuable or loved. It doesn’t work that way. The consequences of the mistakes are the parts that get us back on track. We don’t need to add shame and blame on top of the already difficult consequences. Being a human being is hard…love and forgiveness make it easier.
You are so very loved. (and that won’t change no matter how many mistakes you make)