Dear Beautiful Soul,
I hope you will show up in your life wherever you are. No shame. No hiding.
The sad truth is that sometimes we hide stuff. We hide the hard things we are experiencing, and we hide the good things, too. We hide things that make us feel ashamed, or maybe things that we are trying to handle on our own so that others don’t see our weaknesses or our adversities or our need.
If you’re in relationships where you cannot safely show your weaknesses, frailties and failures because you will be ridiculed, made fun of or criticized, it’s either time to change perspective or change the relationship, isn’t it?On the flip side, if you’re in relationships where you don’t feel safe sharing your accomplishments, your strengths and your good fortune because you fear being rejected or hurt, or you’re afraid of hurting someone who is having a hard time by sharing the good news in your own life…maybe it’s time to change your perspective or maybe even change the relationship.When something bad is happening somewhere for someone, something very good is also happening somewhere for someone else. These are the opportunities that life gives us to be a community. When things are well for someone, they are in a position to help the ones who are struggling. At different times in our lives, we are all at different places on this spectrum. None of it stays the same…the ones who need help should end up being the helpers as soon as they can…and the ones who are always helping will inevitably find themselves needing a hand up at some time or another.
We need to stop hiding from both of these places. Help when you can help…celebrate when it’s time to celebrate…ask for help when it’s time to ask for help…cry when it’s time to cry…and for goodness sake, do it together.
Let’s be good to ourselves and to each other. That’s family. That’s community. That’s the best way to be a human.
You are loved.