You get to decide what your boundaries are. You have the right to guard your heart and your mind from the hurtful words and actions of others. You get to discern whether your interactions with them are in a spirit of kindness, love and best interest.
Broken people often have broken beliefs and say broken things. Broken people are also often addicted to reactions, and they will do and say anything to feed their need for reactions from you and others.
You are so very loved, it’s true.