They just drove away….my daughter Kallie, her hunkie and oh-so-wonderful husband, Jeff, and my little man…my 18 month old grandson, Jackson. This summer they have lived on our property in an rv they have lovingly made into a little home (http://www.weliveinanrv.com)…and today they’re headed back to Utah. Kallie is due to have a baby in October, and she needs to get back to their home to feather her nest and rest; Jeff is applying for his dream job.
I should be happy that things are going so well for them, I guess, but all I can feel is…WAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH! They are taking Jackson with them!!! How can they do that to me!!!!
I took Jackson for a little walk this morning. He wanted to show me the birds…I took him down the road to look at the cows. I cried all the way there and back. My little man has changed so much since they came in May…he has learned to walk, he has learned lots of new words, he can now reach the door knob without getting on his tippy toes.
All summer long I’ve seen Jackson’s cute little pudgy face every morning, fed him countless bananas, picked up a gazillion toys from the floor, gone on lots of little outings, taken countless walks, coerced many tiny kisses, cuddled every time he’d let me, tried to memorize how his little hand feels in mine…because I’ve known that it was a once-in-a-lifetime summer, and that there will NEVER be another summer spent with this little guy at this time in his life.
I tried very hard to make it count…to make memories….to take nothing for granted…to be intentional…to be aware and grateful for these sweet months. Because I knew that it would be over all too soon, and that some things you only get to do ONCE.
So I’d better be paying attention.
These darn kids….they come into your life and you love them and then they have the nerve to just drive away…..*sigh*….. I’m going to indulge myself with a good long cry today. And probably again tomorrow…
I’m getting ready to tell my son, Jake, goodbye in a few months. He’s now a man and has important and wonderful things planned that I’m so thankful for. I remember holding HIS little hand and trying to memorize how it felt…thinking that I didn’t know when the last time would be that he reached over to hold my hand. When was that last time?? When did he get to be such a grown up young man?? When was the last time I rocked him or sang him to sleep??
Why can’t I remember any of the frustrating, exhausting, confusing, infuriating, hard days of raising him? I can only remember the sweet days.
So…very soon I’ll watch him go out the door and drive away and I’ll be so proud and happy of the life he is beginning…and then I’ll go have a good cry.
I’d do the whole thing all over again in a heartbeat….
love, kathy











If that’s not okay to cry about, I am in big trouble! What a tender realization that time can pass by so quickly. I love those boys.
Of course it’s okay to cry. It’s a testament to your love. It hurts to be separated from those we love. Even when we know it’s right for them to go, it still hurts. That’s how we know how much we love them, by how much we miss them when they’re gone.
Being intentional is so important — good for you. Not wishing away the tough stuff, the tiring times. I wonder why that is so hard to learn as a mother and so easy to see as a grandmother.
Enjoy your memories of this precious time. And look forward to making more in the next precious time. There will be so many more.
Until then, make sure you have plenty of Kleenex around.
The most difficult thing I’ve had to get through is trying to figure out how to submit my answers to your daily blog quesstion. Could a little bird tell me how?
Kathy, yes you can cry!!! And eat all the chocolate you want too. I am so sorry that they are leaving but I am so happy for you that you got to have the wonderful 5 months with your sweet Jackson, his mommy and his daddy. You are all such a wonderful family and being together I’m sure makes it all so much greater and how awesome that they were living right there out your front door. Treasure every moment. Why don’t you make you a little scrapbook documenting this summer then one day you could give it to him and you can enjoy it in the meantime.
Your a good grandma!! You are Brave.
Oh, Kathy and now I am crying. When my little Finley wakes in the middle of the night (even though my husband would like me to be stern and tell him to go to bed) I don’t. I get up. I carry him back up to his room and when he asks me to rock him, I smile and do because I want to be intentional. I want to remember these moments. I know they are all too short lived before the movement of our lives takes us to another, oh so important part.
I LOVED watching you Mother your children at BGC. YOU are AMAZING! Thank you for this reminder that moments are all too short lived and to take the time to enjoy them. I am at that point in my life where I need to set my boundaries and make time for the most important things… not all the things. Another BG reminder!
Have a Blessed Sunday!!
Love,
me
I’m sitting her with tears dripping from my own chin…I have two little boys…one who still has pudgy hands and is learning to walk and one who still wants to hold hands and cuddle, but who is rapidly outgrowing the time when he will want to (or fit in!) my lap for hugs and kisses. I too am trying to memorize every dimple, bounce, first word and new discovery. Is it possible to love them too much? I don’t think so…but I do know that my heart is already breaking at the knowledge that one day, they will leave this nest and go out into the world to create their own. I can only pray that each of these moments cements into their hearts how much they are loved and cherished.
Oh Kathy, I’m sending Deana over right now to read this. She is going through the same thing with her oldest son leaving for college. Good cries heal many things… big hug to you!
I am crying, but according to my mom I am emotionally deranged…guess you have an okay excuse too…
LOVE YOU!!!!!!!
I believe I said ‘hormonally deranged’…which we all are when pregnant. love you, too, sweetheart.
Hi, Brenda – sorry you’re having trouble with that! Are you talking about our question from Friday? Just go to this direct link: http://bravegirlsclub.com/blog/?p=971 scroll to the bottom of the page and you’ll see the box for leaving comments. Thanks for asking! xoxoxo
I think as a mom your normal…I cried when all of mine left my sons and daughter left home. I think we are only human, but we give them the tools and hopefully the choices are good and the ones not so good create growth. In them and us too.
Its funny they leave and grow but so do we. Some leave and come back home. Others leave and you hear more from them then when they were home.
I have to say its a struggle as a mom but now being a grandma…Just I see things in a different way as well.
I promise you there will be more precious moments to come. In the mean time your allowed a good cry when you need to. We all have them as we adjust as our kids make choices to move on and out. I always had a pocket of Puffs. xo
you were so lucky to have your family living with you for the summer, they will be back with another member for you to cry over!!!! time goes so quickly, I cant believe my own son is 27, gone in a flash… gorgeous pictures. Thank goodness for tissues! Thank you for sharing. Ciao xx
I just spend the weekend with my dear, sweet little girl, who is not so little any more. You have made me remember all of the wonderful times we had together and all of the things we enjoyed, both together and as a family. She brought such joy to my life as a teeny tiny thing, and still brings me joy today. Even the tears that come to my eyes are full of the joy for the things that we had together.
tender moments for you ..the growing and leaving of two very special ones..i am thinking of you as you make this transition..
It is definitely ok to cry! My grandson and his mom live with us again. He is 2 1/2 years old, and absolutely wonderful. This made me cry too, for you, and for me because I know some day he may go away too. I held him tight this morning when he woke up, savoring every bit of it. How his hair smelled, how soft his cheek was, how tight he hugs me back, and the “I love you so much too Grandma.” There truly is NOTHING like being a grandma! You just don’t understand until you are one. I’m so glad you had this summer with him. Those will be the most precious memories. That will keep you going on a rough day. Hugs!!!
My heart goes out to you Kathy! Such bittersweet joy in loving those we have been blessed to call our own.
Oh Kathy, I do understand and feel for you in my soul. Whoever thought up the idea of families moving far away from one another anyway? ha It’s such a bittersweet thing, that seeing them fly from the nest to make a nest of their own. But couldn’t it just be in the next tree over? I have been there to where you are at in your heart and recently my daughter and family moved 9 hours away, which included our 4 yr old granddaughter and our 14 month old grandson. Just this morning I had another good cry after seeing a video my daughter posted of my grandson walking all over the room for the first time. How I wished I were there to clap loudly for him and kiss his sweet cheeks. But I’m so thankful for emails and skype. Hey, just this morning on a local radio show I heard about the neatest recordable books that Hallmark has now. You can record your voice reading each page of a book to your grandchild and they can hear you any time they want. Isn’t that a sweet idea? You can go to Hallmark.com/recordable books and check them out if you want. I’m always looking for ways to stay close at heart though miles apart too.
Big Warm Comforting Hugs to you Kathy. I understand. Your golden tears were made from all of that love you gave and will forever have coming from your ♥.
♥ Lee Ann
I’m thinking of you Kathy. I remember meeting Jackson and oh so sweet Kallie. I know it’s a difficult time and I sure am thinking and praying for you! Sending much love!
Hi, my lovely friend!!! Thanks for the sweet note….I really miss you and wish there was a time when we could get together. You are one of my favorite people. Let’s catch up sometime soon!! Love you…k
My oldest daughter decided to move 2000 miles away in August. She is 19 and even though it has only been 3 months, I find myself in moments of “heavy heart” and tears. Now my next daughter is getting ready for college next fall. They keep leaving and my heart keeps breaking.
I love these children but it is so hard when they grow up.
I understand….
hugs!