Dear Seeking Girl,
Dear Seeking Girl,
Human beings want love more than anything in the world.
We want love and we want acceptance. We want to be understood.
Hurt and frustration and anxiety can come from trying to get our worth and our acceptance from other people or from anything that is outside of our own selves and our own deepest truths. We simply cannot MAKE others love us, or accept us, or even understand us.
When we do the work necessary to learn who we really are, we can find the love and acceptance we so need, whether we have other people in our lives and in spite of who the world may tell us we are,
Be o.k. with YOU, beautiful friend. Be o.k. with the moments of aloneness that come, and that sometimes stay. Be o.k. with sometimes feeling that no one understands or that no one is giving you exactly what you need, because the only WHOLENESS of spirit that will come is from your own self and your own deepest truth.
This is where you will find peace.
You can give your SELF love and acceptance through listening to your deepest truths that come from your Creator. It will be real, true and authentic. And it will be enough.
It really will. It will be enough.
You are so very very loved.
Dear Pulled-In-Every-Direction Girl,
It’s completely okay to walk away from things that the world tells you will bring you happiness, and towards small, simple, and good things that others usually just walk past.
Never forget that the simple, small things in life are very often the best, and they feel so much better to your soul than the shiny, fancy, and ‘popular’ things.
If you’re overwhelmed by the ‘too-muchness’ pulling at you…by things and situations that are too shiny, too fancy, too false, too noisy, too demanding, too insistent, too chaotic…just too too much….
…maybe it’s time to choose something more simple…away from the crowds and malls and rushing and social media. What would it feel like to spend an evening beside a quiet fire with your beloveds…or reading a favorite book…or listening to music you love…a card game or baking or just conversation with no background noise…
Take some time to listen to what your heart is telling you about what might be overwhelming and over-stressing you, and consider choosing something better.
Remember, you get to choose. Choose what is best.
You are so very LOVED.
Dear Perfectly Imperfect Girl,
It’s hard to remember that we can’t be much good to anyone at all if we don’t take care of ourselves.
Even though there may be people all around us who need help, who need assistance, who need advice, who need a hug, who need a friend, who need a clean towel, who need a sandwich…..we’ve all got to have the energy to do these things each day, and we cannot expect our bodies to carry us forward without recharging. We cannot expect our mind to have fresh ideas and our hearts to have patience. We have to refill ourselves.
Just like we are told on an airplane before a flight…before reaching out to help another in an emergency, we must have our own oxygen masks on.
It is not taking anything away from anyone else when we take some time each day to catch our breath, recharge, restore and remember.
Take time to take care….you are so important. You are loved.
Dear Merciful Girl,
There are enough hard-sell tactics, massive pressure and ‘not-good-enough’ messages blaring out the speakers of everywhere we go in this world to last us the rest of our lives. For this reason, dear girl, it is so important to be kind and gentle with ourselves in every manner of communication.
Of course there is weariness from all of this beating down, and the place to get healing salve gently rubbed into our wounds really must be in the quiet moments that we have with our own selves. The last thing each of us needs is more mean self talk, more pressure or more disappointed and disapproving commentary going on between our ears.
Be kind to your dear, beautiful self. Tell her the things that matter. Tell her that it’s going to be okay. Tell her that you are proud of her for how hard she works every day at making it through the craziness that is life. Let her rest when she is tired. Encourage her when she is discouraged. Lift her up when she is beat down.
And for the sake of all that is good and true….show her some good times. Take her out to play. Let her see beautiful new things and experience exciting new things. Take good care of her…for she is so very beloved and so very important.
Walk as if you are beloved…behave as if you are beloved…because the truth is that you absolutely are.
Today is the day for more kindness and more gentleness.
You are so very loved.
Like a thick stinky brown cloud of yuck….negativity is everywhere.
And it’s sooooo easy to be part of it…it takes absolutely no effort to complain and criticize and judge and point fingers. It takes no creativity or bravery or goodness to just go along with it.
BUT here’s the thing….at the same time ugly cynicism is everywhere, SO IS BEAUTY. SO IS GOODNESS. SO IS LOVE. It’s ALSO THERE…all around us.
Let’s see it, let’s fill our hearts and our brains with it, let’s go out and create it…talk about it, point it out, be grateful for it, turn our faces away from the much and towards the sun…let’s feel its warmth and energy. Let’s share the goodness…build it…insist on it…notice it…BE IT.
Let’s be brave. Let’s be rebels. Let’s walk away from negativity.
It’s HERE and it’s more than we could ever have imagined! We’ll be starting the new Soul Restoration TODAY, and we hope you will too!!
WHAT: Soul Restoration Online Session, Fall 2016
WHERE: Online, inside Brave Girl University
WHY: Because the world needs ALL of us to be our strongest, healthiest, truest, bravest selves…and that’s what Soul Restoration is all about.
WHEN: As a self-directed online course, you’ll be able to take Soul Restoration on your own schedule and at your own pace, beginning Sept 7, 2016.
Yesterday Melody and I were sitting on the sofas in the Clubhouse and I asked her one simple question…I asked her to give me three phrases to complete this sentence:
I asked for three phrases, and WOW…she started talking and didn’t stop until I had scribbled my way through several pages of my notebook as I wrote them all down. She didn’t stop at three. And then Lynette and Amy came in the room and I asked them the same thing and they had even MORE to say.
You see, it’s not that easy to explain why we love Soul Restoration so much, what it has done for each of us in our own lives, and why we pretty much BEG people to take it…including our family and our friends and Brave Girls (and now men) everywhere.
So here are some of their answers…excuse the grammar, these are taken directly from my messy notes. Can you imagine that one online course could do all of this?!…
You’ll learn to:
You’ll get to:
You’ll know for sure:
If you’re ready to experience any of these things in YOUR one-and-only beautiful life, come join us.
It’s really that good. Really. We hope you come join us!
PS. Melody did a 1-hour Facebook Live Q & A session about Soul Restoration tonight…you can watch it at http://facebook.com/bravegirlsclub
Dear Resilient Girl,
The world is full of a lot of messages that just aren’t good for the soul. Sometimes people in our lives are the ones delivering those messages. We must decide not to open our hands or our minds or our hearts to these kinds of messages.
We have to guard our hearts and our minds from the words and actions of others. We have to discern the intentions of others and whether our interactions with them are in a spirit of kindness, love and best interest.
Broken people often have broken beliefs and say broken things…things that try to break you. Broken people are also often addicted to reactions, and they will do and say anything to feed their need for reactions from you and others.
We can love others without letting their words and actions affect us, and we must…or broken people really can break us.
If it doesn’t feel like kindness, if it isn’t going to make you a better person, if it doesn’t feel like love…..reject it, let it go, close your ears, walk away.
You get to decide what your boundaries are, and you are valuable enough to protect. Please protect yourself.
You are so very loved, it’s true.
Dear Becoming Girl,
Where you came from does not have to be where you end up. What has happened to you or what has not happened to you does not have to be your label. What has been said to you or about you does not have to be your truth.
You get to tear those labels off of yourself.
Please, beautiful soul, please only claim for yourself what is best for you and for your life…cast away anything is stained with old beliefs and old memories and old broken people from your life. YOU GET TO DECIDE from this day forward what you want your life to be.
It is true that not everyone starts out with the same circumstances, with the same advantages, with the same love at home, not everyone has the same problems. We can all, however, take whatever life has given us and make it into the most beautiful masterpiece imaginable.
You are NOT the worst mistake you have ever made. You are not the nastiest thing someone has ever said to you. You are not the broken behaviors that have hurt you.
You are beautiful soul who is learning, growing and becoming. All of those things you have been through are part of your story and part of your growth…but they do not have to be who YOU are.
You are beloved, valuable and important…..your life is, too.
Claim goodness, joy and beauty for yourself, it is meant for all of us.
You are so very loved,
Dear Exasperated Girl,
So many opinions. So many different ways of living and being and doing. So many different kinds of people. So many passionate belief systems. So many good causes. So many expectations. So much photo editing. So much life editing. So many cool new things and shiny newest versions.
It. Is. Exhausting.
There will never be a truer version of the how-to manual of life than the one that is in your own heart.
Your life is like no one else’s life. Your mission is like no one else’s mission. Your purpose is unlike any other human being’s purpose. You’ve got to listen to your own navigation system….the rest will take you to someone else’s place.
Be with yourself for a while. Learn to listen to your own longings and your own wisdom and your own heart. Listen to your Creator. Listen to YOUR TRUTH. Shut the rest of it out for a while and you will hear the resonating sound of your own life.
You’ve got to do it….because your life is too important to follow the map of another’s life.
You are so very loved.
It’s all in a GREAT new course in Brave Girl University by Jen Lee! Here’s what she talks about in the podcast:
Jen Lee is the director and producer of the documentary film, Indie Kindred, which offers an intimate look at creative collaboration among independent artists.
A publisher, producer and a performer in New York City’s storytelling scene, Jen has been featured on public radio’s Peabody Awardwinning Moth Radio Hour and The Best of The Moth: Volume 15.
Cowriter of The 10 Letters Project: A Year of Art and Friendship, Jen creates resources for artists, makers (and the people who gather them) at jenleeproductions.com.