Dear Changing Girl,
Often when we are learning, growing and becoming. We make others uncomfortable who have grown comfortable with the way we are, and the way they believe they would like us to stay.
Some of the most confusing words, that sometimes hurt terribly, that we can hear from the mouth of someone we love are: “YOU HAVE CHANGED” as if this was a certain crime that is absolutely unforgivable.
Darling, wonderful friend, please know, and please believe and please close your eyes to absorb the truth of this statement after you read it. WE MUST CHANGE IN ORDER TO GROW. When we know better, we do better. When we see where we must make corrections, we must change our behaviors. When we gain new awareness, we must take responsibility for that awareness and make changes as necessary, or else we are betraying our souls.
So next time, beautiful girl, someone says “YOU HAVE CHANGED!!!” and then stares at you blankly, waiting for an apology and a promise that you will go back to to your old self, simply say, “THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR NOTICING. IT HAS BEEN A LOT OF WORK TO CHANGE THE WAY I HAVE BEEN DOING THINGS and TO FIGURE OUT A NEW BETTER WAY FOR ME. THANK YOU FOR NOTICING” and let them be on their way.
You are so phenomenally incredible and so brave and strong. The way you try to learn better, do better and make the best choices for your life and your path so that you can be the best for those you love, and for the work you are uniquely here to do.
AND – you are so very loved. Keep up the great work. Keep on becoming.