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Go where the PEACE is…(what does that even mean?)

20th September 2012 by Kathy Wilkins under -- a little bird told me, -- brave girl-isms, featured post

It’s a phrase we use a lot at Brave Girls Club…”go where the peace is”. It has deep meaning for us and helps us immeasurably to make good decisions and choices. But today I received an email from a fairly new Brave Girl. She told me a bit about her life and some of the struggles she is facing, and asked if perhaps I could explain more fully what ‘Go where the peace’ means.

I did some hunting through our archives and found a particular “Little Bird Told Me” Daily Truth email message that explains this beautifully. All of us can use a reminder of exactly what this means and how it can bless our lives…so here goes, new brave girl…

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Dear Gorgeous Girl,

Peace is good. Peace is so so good. It is worth it to travel whatever lengths you need to go to feel peace. Often, peace is right in front of our face if we will just silence everything else out. Then sometimes we have to make really tough choices or go to great lengths to feel at peace. Whatever it takes, it is worth it. Always go where the peace is, especially the peace in your heart.

Peace is defined as in the dictionary as: freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, an obsession, etc.; tranquility; serenity. But peace is also defined as the normal, non-warring condition of a nation, group of nations, or the world (or ourselves!). Another definition of peace is silence; stillness.

Sometimes we are at war with our own selves, sometimes with an issue — an addiction or an illness. Making peace with that part of ourselves is a huge step toward peace. Sometimes we just have to COME to peace with it. Some things are a lifetime struggle, a part of us that we just have to come to peace with — and constantly seek peace inside of it — and help that part of ourselves seek for peace.

When making tough decisions, you will never regret making the decision that brings the most peace to your heart. Sometimes it doesn’t bring the most peace to your LIFE in the short term, but if it is what brings the most peace to your heart, that’s the place to go. Always go where the peace is.

Seek peace, sweet girl.

You are loved.

xoxo

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Sending you so much love,

kathy
xoxo

PS. You can subscribe to receive our FREE “Little Bird Told Me” Daily Truth messages (like the one above) here.

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what is real?

16th September 2011 by kallie under -- brave girl-isms, featured post

Ever since Melody posted about her facebook addiction and the “cool whip” diet, I’ve had one question going through my mind…what is real?

If you haven’t seen the cool whip diet video (totally worth the 7 minutes and don’t worry…Melody didn’t really eat 20 tubs of Cool Whip) , then let me tell you about what we call “Cool Whip” in our lives.

Imagine if all you ever ate was Cool Whip….you could eat it all day along and never feel full or satisfied. And you probably couldn’t do it for even a day…probably not even one meal….before you started feeling sick and your body started craving something substantial. And you’d change things right away….you’d go looking for an apple or a baked potato or a string cheese…SOMETHING else.

So take that analogy and apply it to your life…to your soul….to the things you spend your time and energy on. Some of it’s Cool Whip….stuff we do all day long that doesn’t matter at. all. Yet we keep doing these things….hoping that somehow they’ll fill us up if we have enough of them. The truth is, they never ever will. Just like Cool Whip will never ever satisfy our bodies, soul Cool Whip will keep us feeling empty, unsatisfied and yearning for more.

Thing is…it’s EASY to change! We just have to find the Cool Whip in our lives and replace it for what’s real.

Let me tell you about some Cool Whip in my life…

This is Jackson, my 2 1/2 year old. He is awesome.

This summer, we got rid of his pacifier, and in it’s place we started helping him to go sleep by singing him a couple of songs at night. Most nights it is blissful….just like you would picture a perfect painting of a mother singing to her baby. Other times it is…less than that. On one of those nights I remember thinking, “I should get a cd….then he could listen to songs as long as he wanted…” Here’s what I quickly realized:

Buying a CD of lullabies would be Cool Whip for him and for me…we would be missing out. Singing Songs together every afternoon for nap and every night for bedtime is real.

Face to face with my little boy.

This will matter in 5 years and 10 years and 100 years.

I will remember these tender years. He will too. It only lasts 10 minutes at each bedtime…these are maybe the most important 10 minutes I spend each day.

Here’s another one…

At night, we like to sit together as a family and watch a movie or a show on tv. Most of the time the kids are half-watching and Jeff and I are on our laptops. We’re trying to be better. Last night we were watching a movie (really watching this time, even!), and a big storm started up… a downpour of rain complete with thunder and lightning. Normally we would have just let it pass. Last night we turned off the tv and the 3 of us opened the blinds and watched the storm. It was awesome for so many reasons.

Lesson Learned: Not many things that are REAL come from sitting on the couch in front of a screen….but lots of real things can come from sitting on the couch in front of a window with my guys.

I think we ALL want to live REAL and AUTHENTIC lives….but in our world it’s easy not to. For the first time in history what’s fake is easier to find that what’s real…so help us out. Help us figure out what is REALLY REAL.

Now it’s YOUR turn….

what is REAL to you??

Tell us and Brave Girls everywhere what “Cool Whip” you’re replacing in your life with what’s real in the comments…can’t wait to hear!!

We love you sooo much!!

xoxo

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i have an idea….

15th August 2011 by melody under -- brave girl-isms, featured post

When we first got the c-r-a-z-y idea to make a warehouse into a studio, I made this ENORMOUS piece of art….

And Mr. Ross got help to hang it up in our new studio…

At Brave Girls Club we LOVE ideas….especially big ideas….for us there is no such thing as an idea that is too big….

So we do a lot of idea sharing and a lot of brain storming and a lot of getting super pumped about what we talk about. It would only take a couple extra lifetimes to see all of the amazing ideas that have come through our little space come to life.

Since this painting was born, something has happened. Before the painting, anyone on our team could use whatever way they wanted to say, “I have an idea…” Now if you want to share an idea, all you have to do is give the “I have an idea…” face:

Now that you know, the next time you go to someone and say, “I have an idea…” you’ll giggle and suddenly have the urge to hide the bottom part of your face.

xoxo

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