Dear Dazzling Girl,
One kind person can make such a difference. One compassionate hand placed on a hand in distress can make such a difference. One phone call, one thank-you note, one sweet text message can make every bit of difference. One job well done, one child rocked to sleep, one lunch packed, one single daisy given away can make such a difference.
One smile in the grocery store, one proclamation of forgiveness, one loaf of freshly baked bread, one handmade card, one offer to help can make such a huge difference.
It’s the little things, gorgeous friend, that make the heroes. It’s the one thing, after one thing, after one thing. It’s that one person who makes the difference.
Be the one.
You are amazing….and making such a huge difference in the world.
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Dear Important Girl,
We often don’t realize it…but sometimes we find ourselves giving all of our best energy to the very things that we don’t want. We do this in lots of ways…by obsessing about things because we wish we could overcome them…by not forgiving things that have hurt us…by continuing to do things that we know are not right for us because of guilt or shame or expectations….or even fear. Sometimes we have just done the same thing for so long, that it has become a habit, and even though we don’t want to give any more of our time or our life to it, we just keep doing it anyway. Sometimes we feel trapped, like there is not a better way, like our choices are gone. We always always always have the ability to choose.
There are lots of reasons that we waste minutes and hours of our precious day doing things that STEAL OUR TIME FROM THE THINGS THAT WE WANT THE MOST…from the places where we are truly needed…the places where we will find the most happiness…the places where we belong.
And that is how we must view it, sweet friend…..each minute we spend lending ourselves, our time or talents or energy or thoughts to something that we really want nothing to do with is time that is stolen from the things that really do matter to us. Each minute spent with the parts of our life that we want to be free from is a minute that we are not at peace….a minute that is spent feeling miserable instead of joyful.
Please evaluate your time, lovely. Evaluate where you are giving your very best self. Evaluate what it would will take to get back on track. It is worth the work, it is worth the scary steps that it may take to get there. You gotta be in charge of this….no one can do this for you.
You are so important…and you have such important things to do.
You are strong, capable and it is time. And you are so very loved.
Dear Persistent Girl,
There are so many times when we do things we feel like we need to be doing, but we have no idea why we are doing them. Often we work and work and work toward something and can not really see what is coming out of it. There are so many times we feel prompted to do or say something randomly, and it doesn’t make any sense, but the feeling to do it is so strong.
Keep listening to your gut and to your heart, and keep going doing the things that your deepest inner voices are prompting you to do. You may never know of the enormous difference that you made to someone, somewhere….but no good and true act ever goes without a good and true outcome….even if we never see it come to fruition with our own eyes.
Also…when you are working toward an important goal…so much of the progress is like the roots of a tree or a plant….you can not see what is happening under the soil, but what is being built is what will sustain, feed and hold up what you are building for years to come.
So, even if you can’t see it…keep doing it if that’s what your heart is telling you to do. The greatest gift in all of this is peace, but chances are….before too long….you will start to see all of the hard work you are doing come together…and you will be so thankful that you stuck with it.
You are one of a kind…such an inspiration. Thanks for being you.
Dear Perfectly Wonderful Girl,
Are you carrying an old or new burden around like a heavy bag of rocks, letting it drag you down and hold you back? Is it a belief about yourself or someone else. Is it a mistake you made. Is it something that someone else did to you that you can not overcome?
It is time to stop shaming yourself. It is time to start treating yourself with the kind of love that you treat others with. It is time to overcome it.
You are not your past, and you are not your mistakes. You are not what others say you are and you are not your limitations, your weaknesses or your frailties. You are not the horrible things that others have done to you. You are not your addictions or your family or your dress size or your tax return.
You are a priceless, authentic, light-filled soul. No one has ever been created just like you and no one ever will be. You are worth more than you can ever know.
It is time to see yourself this way, with unconditional love, kindness and forgiveness. Today, let go of the shame. Let go of it. It is time.
Dear Stunning Girl,
What does truth feel like? Truth feels good and peaceful and warm, even when the truth is a hard reality. Truth is peace and truth is light being shed on the darkness. Truth eliminates the confusion and loves the beauty of life….in all of its forms.
Think of a time when you knew FOR SURE, for sure, for sure, for SURE that you were experiencing truth. Think of that feeling……..that peace….that knowing.
When you are in a place where you have very difficult decisions to make….especially during those times when BOTH decisions mean something very very good or BOTH decisions mean something very very difficult……..remember the way that TRUTH feels.
Live your truth. Speak your truth. Embrace your truth. CARRY YOUR TRUTH with you and try your VERY HARDEST to never let anything or anyone sway you away from your truth. If your truth is hard to find…seek it out, do whatever it takes to hold hands with your truth.
Your truth is one of the only things that is truly yours….you have your truth, you have your story, and you have choice. Please use them all wisely.
You are incredibly brave and absolutely beautiful….don’t ever forget it. You are so very loved.
Dear Soulful Girl,
From the time that we are very young, we are confronted with the challenge of knowing how to deal with very good things happening to other people, but not necessarily to us, at least not those exact things, and rarely at that exact time.
Jealousy is a vicious beast that can steal our own joy away, and we are best to put a stop to it just as soon as we become aware of those kinds of feelings welling up in our hearts.
You see, what we often do is compare our very “worst” parts to everyone else’s “best” parts in life, creating a situation that has no good ending. Comparing hardly ever has a good ending, as a matter of fact.
A great tip for a happy life is to always be happy at other’s good fortune, young-looking enetics, or big breaks in life. Avoid comparing your situations, houses, husbands, diamonds, jeans size with anyone else’s. Jealousy goes away when we practice gratitude for the blessings in our own life, and when we celebrate the blessings in other’s lives. There are not many acts of love greater than being genuinely happy for another’s good fortune when our own luck is down.
Be happy. Just decide. You are just right, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be.
You are so loved.
Dear Overwhelmed Girl,
Do you have the completely irrational belief that so many of us have that you can be everything to everyone, especially to those that you love? Do you believe it’s your job to keep them all happy, to help them with everything that they are struggling with and to then go out and save the world in your free time?
Do you over commit and then beat yourself up when you under-deliver?
Are there a million things on your list that were really really important that you didn’t even get to because you got caught up in doing things that weren’t nearly AS important?
Ok now. Take a deep breath. Now take another one. One more.
Remember that you are wonderful. You are loved. And, phenomenal friend, amazing woman, you are a human being. You DO have limitations and it is totally ok for you to say no sometimes. Lots of times. In fact, it is essential.
When you don’t stop to rest, to think, to recharge, to remember, to restore, you end up grouchy, tired, uncreative, angry and numb to lots of life. You are a sparkling, beautiful girl and we need that sparkle. So STOP today and make a list. Prioritize it. Be realistic. Say no to at least 3 things today. Practice.
Say yes to yourself, to joy, to rest, to being 100% present to the things that matter most to you — instead of a tired and diluted version who has too much to do to ever do her best at ANYTHING. Don’t lose yourself while you are trying to be everything to everyone….
If at all possible, only have enough on your plate that you can do your best at everything you have to do. Your life will take on new meaning and happiness.
Just practice. This is a hard one, but so worth it. Hang in there. You are loved!
Dear Gorgeous Girl,
Sometimes the very best gift we can give to ourselves is a little bit of time alone…..in complete silence and complete calm.
Even if it’s for a little while…quiet time is essential to our souls. Our deepest truths speak in quiet little voices most of the time, and we have to get our lives calm and quiet to be able to hear them. When we are feeling scattered, depleted, confused and torn…a remedy that almost always works is to take a walk all alone, or to go somewhere quiet and be all alone…and to just sit…just listen.
It may seem too simple, too good to be true…but so many of the mysteries of life have the simplest answers…and we just have to trust in their simplicity. Give yourself the gift of solitude, quiet and a listening heart…as often as you can…and you will hear the things you need to hear.
Unplug, walk away, take a breath…do it for the sake of everything and everyone that you love…and especially do it for you.
Your answers are in there…your calm, wise self is in there too…now, go find her…she’s been waiting patiently.
Dear Brilliant Girl,
Words are powerful. It is really amazing how a grouping of sounds made with air coming through our throats, over the position of our tongue and through our teeth and lips, can have such a huge impact….it’s just air and sound waves! So…..what is it about words?
Written words hold so much of the same power…sometimes more. How is it that a combination of shapes and lines put together can have so much power?
This leaves us with an important responsibility. We need to be careful with something that has this much power.
We need to watch carefully the words that come from our mouths….and SO carefully the words we let pass into our ears, sweet friend.
We need to be SO VERY CAREFUL to be choosy about the words that meet our eyes off of paper, and then penetrate into our hearts….everything has an effect.
Look for good, true and beautiful messages, and only let those in. THEN, formulate good true and beautiful messages from your heart…and ONLY let those out…..
Because words are powerful. Words have power to heal, and they have power to destroy. Words have power to clear things up and power to confuse. Words have power to create a feeling of light and hope…or a feeling of darkness and despair.
Choose them wisely…both coming and going….YOUR SOUL IS SO IMPORTANT.
You are so very loved.
Dear Confused Girl,
It’s ok to be confused. Life is confusing sometimes.
When you sit down and try to figure some of life’s mysteries out, things sometimes even get more confusing. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to know why things are happening the way they are, and how you got into the middle of all of the things that are happening. Yes, life can be so confusing. One thing is sure though, that all of those funny little “coincidences” and crazy bouts of perfect timing, and wild collisions. Those were not accidents.
Look back at the very best things that have happened in your life, moments and experiences and relationships that made you better, or taught you immeasurable lessons or were stepping stones to the best places. Think of those things. Then, think about all of the miraculous encounters, the unexpected twists and turns and the funny unplanned things that made those exact parts of your life happen, the way it all came together. It would be very hard to argue that THAT many coincidences happened to get you EXACTLY where you are supposed to be now.
You are looked after perfectly. There is a plan for you. There are calculations and plans and strategies and chance meetings being set up constantly in your behalf. It looks so confusing, but really, it’s perfectly thought out and someday it will all make sense. It will be made clear to you. Be patient with it. Breathe through it.. Trust. When it’s hard to feel good about it…just look at how far you’ve come and all of the things that had to happen to get you where you are today.
You are loved and known and needed and don’t let anyone or anything ever tell you anything different.