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Archives for April, 2012

dear sweet girl…a little butterfly told me…

Dear Sweet Girl,

Today is the most important day ever because today is the one and only day that you have right now. Today you get to decide what you want to do, how you want to be in the world…how you wan to help and how you want to feel. Today you get to decide what you want to learn and how you want to spend your time.

You don’t have yesterday anymore and you don’t have tomorrow yet. So today is the most important day you have…today you get to live your life in the way that only you can. Make the most of it, lovely girl.

Go out and have the best day ever!

xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little butterfly told me – daily message for teens and girls”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive A Little Butterfly Told Me in your email inbox.}

dear lovely girl…a little bird told me…

Dear Lovely Girl,

It is so important to listen to the right voices. Many times, we must tune out almost every voice around us to be able to focus on what is true for our own lives.

Please don’t give any heed at all to the useless opinions of others, beautiful friend. Act for yourself. Face your own truths…then act on your own truths.

Turn off the confusing lies, tune them out…plug your ears when there are annoying, loud, negative voices that have no business giving you opinions about your own life.

You know SO much more than you think you know. Your inner compass will guide you. Those feelings in your gut are your deepest wisdom. Be brave and tune out all of the voices, except the voices that are speaking your truth.

You are courageous and amazing….and oh so loved.

xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little birdie told me – daily truth”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive Daily Truths in your email inbox.}

 

dear fantastic girl…a little bird told me…

Dear Fantastic Girl,

There is a little secret something so amazing, so miraculous and so wonderful that we should share it with everyone we know once we learn it. The secret is that there is nothing that others can do to really hurt us from the outside when we do not allow our own thoughts to hurt us on the inside. Once we take care of what is going on inside of our minds and our hearts and our souls, anything that tries to come at us from the outside simply can have no influence on our life.

It takes practice but we must just remember that we are not here to impress others, and others are not here to impress us. We only have control over our own lives and our own emotions, and once we make peace with ourselves and make friends with ourselves, and learn to protect all of the tender parts of our souls, there really is just not much that can shake us. We also learn that anyone who WANTS to hurt any part of us really does not belong in our life and because we are friends with our own self, we simply do not allow it.

So, beautiful friend, just like we are always learning, it starts with our own self. It starts within. When we do the soul work. We simply do not feel the need to change others or to put up with abusive behavior because we have learned to not let anything go on inside of us that would hurt us.

You are worth taking care of, protecting and being friends with, and peace comes when we do it for our own self.

You are so very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little birdie told me – daily truth”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive Daily Truths in your email inbox.}

dear brave girl…a little butterfly told me…

Dear Brave Girl,

There will be a lot of things that come along in life that will make you want to stop…to quit. Beautiful girl, just keep going. We must always pick ourselves up and keep going.

You can do it…you are courageous and wonderful and your heart is pure. You are meant to go to beautiful and wonderful and meaningful places in your life….so don’t let anything stop you.

You are so very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little butterfly told me – daily message for teens and girls”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive A Little Butterfly Told Me in your email inbox.}

dear lovely girl…a little butterfly told me…

Dear Lovely Girl,

Sometimes we think that once we have something we always wanted, we will finally be happy. Sometimes we think that if we just had the right friends, we would finally be happy. Often we think that if we had something sparklier or cooler, we would surely be happy.

Beautiful girl, it’s a truth that we all have to learn over and over again, that if we can not be happy without something, we will not really be happy with it either. Being happy is a daily choice. Choose to be happy right now. Don’t wait. Then when wonderful things DO come into your life, it will just be an extra wonderful little bonus, but not THE thing that makes you happy — because you are already so happy.

You are so very very very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little butterfly told me – daily message for teens and girls”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive A Little Butterfly Told Me in your email inbox.}

dear determined girl…a little bird told me…

Dear Determined Girl,

Something that is hard to learn, but so important, is what to hold on to and what to let go of. Often we hold on to things long past their expiration date, or we hold on to things that we never should have grasped onto in the first place…or we hold on to things that would be better off not being held by anything at all.

And then sometimes, we let things go that just need a little bit of watering, some sunshine and a bit of weeding to be everything we ever wanted it to be. Sometimes we truly think that someone else’s greener grass is better, when all that we would have to do to make our own grass green is to give it the kind of love and care that every green grass needs.

Beautiful soul, it takes a lot of very important and contemplative listening to know for sure when it’s time to hold on, when it’s time to let go, and when it’s time to just take a lot of extra care to get things back to healthy. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking that something that you once deeply loved is beyond repair. If your heart tells you to stop and try to nurse a relationship, a job, your body, a skill, an old dream back to health, give it a shot and see what happens. Above all, listen to your heart.

Being brave is a big bundle of knowing when to let go and knowing when to hold on…and all of it requires making quiet time to listen listen listen to your heart, then to take action in the direction your heart tells you to take it.

Have faith in your truth.

You are so very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little birdie told me – daily truth”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive Daily Truths in your email inbox.}

dear lovely girl…a little bird told me…

Dear Lovely Girl,

Sometimes it’s tempting to bend and twist and stand on our toes to change enough for certain others to like us, for us to be able to ‘fit in’. Self betrayal doesn’t ever lead to happiness, however, and doing things that we know in our gut are not right for us, bending our values, those things just lead us down a really tricky path — a path that often leads us to places that are so far from where we wanted to end up that we just can’t figure out how we ever got there.

When we decide to put value in those who love us exactly as we are, life gets really sweet. Sometimes we have to wait to find those who like the real us, but it is always worth the wait. Beautiful friend, you are wonderful in your purest, deepest, truest form. You don’t have to change to be loved. There are those who will love all that is real about you, and those are the real relationships that a meaningful life is made of.

You are worth waiting for.
You are so very very very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little birdie told me – daily truth”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive Daily Truths in your email inbox.}

A peek at our new place….BRAVE RIVER RANCH……(over 100 photos!)

I can find so many sketches, so many journal pages, so many plans and dreams of creating a place that breathes of love…and peace…and beauty…and rest…and solace….and creativity…and community…and family….and loveliness….and nurturing…and fun fun fun….well, we dreamed it up….and now we are starting to live it…..and it is even better than the dreams about it…..

I have to admit….I have been kind of stingy for the last year with information, photos, etc. concerning what’s been going on in my personal world….there’s a reason for that….about a year ago when I did my big Facebook/Social Media 90 day fast…….I completely redesigned my life during that quiet time……and one of the biggest things I decided was that I didn’t want my life to look like a big PR campaign anymore…..after almost 15 years of being in business, and keeping my life pretty public….I wanted to know what kind of life I would really live if I was never going to blog about it or put it in a magazine or make it a show…know what I mean????

Here’s me sitting in my bedroom……we painted our first bedroom set after 20 years….and I did it turquoise…and I am happy to tell you that even though it’s been turquoise for a year, this week is the first time I have showed anyone…because I did it for my heart and soul…..but I know you will love looking too……..(and we will be doing a home tour on the blog this summer too…yay!)

So……why haven’t we shown lots of pictures til now???? After a few months…I kind of got addicted to this new way of authentic living…..living just for my heart and my soul and my family…and doing what I really yearned to do no matter what anyone else thought…no matter what the pictures showed. And we did it! I would challenge you to try it for a while…….try to live your life the way you would if there was no such thing as blogs or facebook….ya know? It really changes everything….it sure did for me.

I was telling our oldest son, Brock….and my husband a few nights ago that I have never ever ever felt so happy….so at peace…so utterly blissed out. We really worked hard to design the exact right life for us…and to be sitting here living it is an incredible, beautiful miracle…especially when I think about where we were just a few short years ago and what a huge struggle things were every day. Here’s us after a long day of working on the ‘ranch’.

Well…..it’s been almost a year since we set out on this particular journey and we are really ready to start sharing with you some of the things we’ve been up to. There are SO MANY THINGS that we will be unveiling this summer…I feel like Kathy and I have both been pregnant with triplets or quadruplets and haven’t told anyone…..but that soon we will show up with a whole bunch of babies :) …….one of the very very very wonderful, big things that has happened is the birth of BRAVE RIVER RANCH…the place where we will soon be hosting retreats from the turquoise barn and the beautiful ranch house…..and the forest…and the grounds……..the magic of this place goes on and on………my family is also lucky enough to live here. We wake up every day in awe of it’s beauty and peace and sparkly magic…..as a crew…we’ve been working hard on it…the whole BGC crew and friends and family too….

…..there’s still so much to do, every day…hundreds of plants to be planted that will be here this week…..beautiful installations….lots of things we can’t tell yet because we want them to be a surprise for our retreat guests this summer….but here’s some photos we wanted to share. ……..I hope, we all hope, with all of our hearts that you will be able to come join us out here in Idaho soon. We will be announcing several more retreats in coming weeks….different things than we have done before….writing retreats, painting retreats, metal and leatherworking retreats…..so much awesomeness to come so stay tuned…..

I love that we are showing you the blank canvas….in a few months when everything starts to grow in……..wowzers….

Also…these photos are just the back part of the property……in a while we will show you the rest…the ranch house..the turquoise barn…the fields….the front…….the deep forest parts……this is just the parts we worked on this week…..

Lots of beautiful mulch was put into flowerbeds everywhere………..big toys for big boys. :)

And little toys for little boys………..

If you look closely….you can see Marq trimming the trees and Brock driving the tractor….there is something so heartwarming about looking out the window and seeing this scene……:)

I think we have burned 25 truckloads of old dead wood and stuff that had to be pruned out, cleaned out…….but my man loves fire…especially giant weed torches….and tractors….and trucks…and loud equipment…….so it’s a win/win right?

This is a really cool herb garden that will go right outside the kitchen….to be planted in a few weeks:

This is another rose garden outside my bedroom…..I raked it all out with Kathy and then the boys put in mulch…we are going to do something super cool with those framed out areas…can’t wait to show you…

this is how the path looked when the boys were done with it…

The rose garden between the house and barn……can’t wait to see what colors the roses are!!!!!

We are just starting to plant lots of herbs, flowers and shrubs…

That is the garden spot…….lots of varieties of tomatoes, cucumbers and peppers will be planted next week when the plants get here….can’t wait to have garden fresh tomatoes!!!!

And the crew workin’ workin’ workin’….always with smiles and laughter and fun….I love these people!

Here’s my son Brock…posing…I guess that’s what single 21 year olds do……they pose. :)

But he sure moved a lot of rock to build this rock wall around the perimeter of the back yard!!!!!

And of course Kathy took care of all of us….cooking while weeding, hauling dirt and loving on her grandbabies!

Even the littles got in on the work action….

Such wonderful friends…always show up when we are in need……I love that…and we are always there for them too….love how we can all love each other in this way!

It’s definitely a family affair around here……babies and all…..just one big happy workin’ family …..

Lots of jokin’ to keep it real. :)

And the boys can always be found where the loud noises and big machines are. :)

Love working with my daughters and nieces…..

And of course, when the work is done…..we eat and we play………and we feel good about all that we accomplished….it has already been such a super fun Spring….parties, BBQs and get-togethers….so many more to come, too. :)

And we just can’t wait to start having our retreats…….what we want most is to create a place that feels safe, beautiful, relaxing, invigorating, fun, loving, comforting…….a place where you are treated with the love and care and nurturing that you deserve to be treated with…….that your soul is so hungry for…..a place to rest….a place to remember what you already know but that life has made you forget….

…so…we are creating that place…and we can’t wait for you to get here. xoxo

So…gotta get back to work….we have lots of parties to plan!!! BGC in McCall in just 3 weeks! Then our first BGC here at the ranch shortly after that……..life is so good….the work is hard but the work is awesome. We are loving life….loving it SO MUCH.

OHHHHHHHH…..and soon we will be telling you about our BIG HUGE LAUNCH of the Brave Girl Shoppe……..we are making beautiful products for you to buy……..working nonstop at it…..here’s some of the art I’ve been working on to make into prints and other soul-treats……………we will tell you about it all sooo soooon!!!! xoxoxo

Thanks for sharing all of this wonderfulness with us…..our dream is to have you here with us in person…..and we are working hard to make it so that there are lots of opportunities to do that. We SOOOOOO love having you here…it is one of the best parts of life for us.

Hope to see you soon! Dream big dreams……then dream even bigger ones!

xoxo

melody

 

 

dear wonderful girl…a little butterfly told me…

Dear Wonderful Girl,

There are so many ways that people spend their time that seem normal but are really just a big huge waste of the one beautiful life we all have. Please think about how important every minute of your life is, and don’t waste it on things that make you feel yucky, that fill your mind with yuck, or that are just nonsense. You have so much wonderfulness waiting for you. Spend your life on things that make your heart sing.

You are so very very very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little butterfly told me – daily message for teens and girls”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive A Little Butterfly Told Me in your email inbox.}

dear sweet girl…a little butterfly told me…

Dear Sweet Girl,

Enjoy ALL of the moments of your beautiful life.

Don’t try to grow up too soon…..there is so much time for that. Enjoy the parts of life that you are in right now. Enjoy the freedom, the fun and the way you are taken care of. Enjoy the time to learn and explore and figure things out.

This is such a beautiful time in your life……love every second of it.

You are so very loved.
xoxo

{This is an excerpt from the Brave Girls Club “a little butterfly told me – daily message for teens and girls”. Click to read this entire truth or to subscribe to receive A Little Butterfly Told Me in your email inbox.}

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