Dear Stunning Girl,
What does truth feel like? Truth feels good and peaceful and warm, even when the truth is a hard reality. Truth is peace and truth is light being shed on the darkness. Truth eliminates the confusion and loves the beauty of life….in all of its forms.
Think of a time when you knew FOR SURE, for sure, for sure, for SURE that you were experiencing truth. Think of that feeling……..that peace….that knowing.
When you are in a place where you have very difficult decisions to make….especially during those times when BOTH decisions mean something very very good or BOTH decisions mean something very very difficult……..remember the way that TRUTH feels.
Live your truth. Speak your truth. Embrace your truth. CARRY YOUR TRUTH with you and try your VERY HARDEST to never let anything or anyone sway you away from your truth. If your truth is hard to find…seek it out, do whatever it takes to hold hands with your truth.
Your truth is one of the only things that is truly yours….you have your truth, you have your story, and you have choice. Please use them all wisely.
You are incredibly brave and absolutely beautiful….don’t ever forget it. You are so very loved.
Archives for June, 2012
Everyone loves our chair covers when they come to the clubhouse or the art barn or camp……..we thought it would be fun today to show you all of the new ones we made for camp and the art barn!!! These are SO EASY and all you have to do is put 2 pieces of fabric, right sides together, then sew the shape of the top of the chair….turn them outside out, then hot glue trim to the bottoms….it seriously takes minutes and makes all the difference in the world…..we have them all over the place…and they are easy to change out for a quick makeover….SO FUN!!!
Have a wonderful weekend!!!!!
We love you!
We are working on a little movie about the ranch and camp at the ranch….but we have gotten so many emails asking for more photos of camp that we decided to add a few more today………it’s the perfect thing to do anyway because we decided to add some more camp dates this year and this will get you even more excited to come!!! Check out the new dates because there are still some spots left…we haven’t spread the word too much yet and we would LOVE to have you there (CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE).…..we would love it more than anything!!!! Enjoy a few more pretty photos of the most magical week you could ever imagine…xoxoxo
Dear Soulful Girl,
From the time that we are very young, we are confronted with the challenge of knowing how to deal with very good things happening to other people, but not necessarily to us, at least not those exact things, and rarely at that exact time.
Jealousy is a vicious beast that can steal our own joy away, and we are best to put a stop to it just as soon as we become aware of those kinds of feelings welling up in our hearts.
You see, what we often do is compare our very “worst” parts to everyone else’s “best” parts in life, creating a situation that has no good ending. Comparing hardly ever has a good ending, as a matter of fact.
A great tip for a happy life is to always be happy at other’s good fortune, young-looking enetics, or big breaks in life. Avoid comparing your situations, houses, husbands, diamonds, jeans size with anyone else’s. Jealousy goes away when we practice gratitude for the blessings in our own life, and when we celebrate the blessings in other’s lives. There are not many acts of love greater than being genuinely happy for another’s good fortune when our own luck is down.
Be happy. Just decide. You are just right, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be.
You are so loved.
There’s this whole new peace around here now that the BIG work is done…and we are in between camps……..but it’s definitely not quiet…..we are working on new projects already (including an INCREDIBLE new online course that you are going to LOOOOVE)….but today, when we got up for an early morning video shoot that you will see very soon (it is so awesome!!!) we walked outside and the cows had come home……this huge herd is on several hundred acres and sometimes we see them and sometimes we don’t…..today they were right here………..so I went and gave them some love…
One of them tried to eat the geraniums….she immediately decided that they were not too tasty, though….thank goodness…
But the biggest project today was a very funky video shoot in the forest…………….wait til you see what happened in set-ups like this one…
And BUTTERCUP, our little yellow butterfly friend just stays right by our side……..
And the zinnias are starting to bloom!!! Wahoo!! I have a ton of these planted…they are about 3-4 feet tall right now and the blossoms are supposed to be 4-6 inches!!! I can’t wait til they are covered with big huge blooms!!!
And for breakfast today for the family……we had our heart shaped tomato……….it was the most delicious tomato ever. This gardening thing is more fun every day.
So…that’s all…….just a few updates from the iphone…..hope you are enjoying your summer….we sure are! Lots of fun stuff coming up for all of us! Stay tuned, it’s gonna be smiley!!!
We love you!
Dear Overwhelmed Girl,
Do you have the completely irrational belief that so many of us have that you can be everything to everyone, especially to those that you love? Do you believe it’s your job to keep them all happy, to help them with everything that they are struggling with and to then go out and save the world in your free time?
Do you over commit and then beat yourself up when you under-deliver?
Are there a million things on your list that were really really important that you didn’t even get to because you got caught up in doing things that weren’t nearly AS important?
Ok now. Take a deep breath. Now take another one. One more.
Remember that you are wonderful. You are loved. And, phenomenal friend, amazing woman, you are a human being. You DO have limitations and it is totally ok for you to say no sometimes. Lots of times. In fact, it is essential.
When you don’t stop to rest, to think, to recharge, to remember, to restore, you end up grouchy, tired, uncreative, angry and numb to lots of life. You are a sparkling, beautiful girl and we need that sparkle. So STOP today and make a list. Prioritize it. Be realistic. Say no to at least 3 things today. Practice.
Say yes to yourself, to joy, to rest, to being 100% present to the things that matter most to you — instead of a tired and diluted version who has too much to do to ever do her best at ANYTHING. Don’t lose yourself while you are trying to be everything to everyone….
If at all possible, only have enough on your plate that you can do your best at everything you have to do. Your life will take on new meaning and happiness.
Just practice. This is a hard one, but so worth it. Hang in there. You are loved!
Dear Gorgeous Girl,
Sometimes the very best gift we can give to ourselves is a little bit of time alone…..in complete silence and complete calm.
Even if it’s for a little while…quiet time is essential to our souls. Our deepest truths speak in quiet little voices most of the time, and we have to get our lives calm and quiet to be able to hear them. When we are feeling scattered, depleted, confused and torn…a remedy that almost always works is to take a walk all alone, or to go somewhere quiet and be all alone…and to just sit…just listen.
It may seem too simple, too good to be true…but so many of the mysteries of life have the simplest answers…and we just have to trust in their simplicity. Give yourself the gift of solitude, quiet and a listening heart…as often as you can…and you will hear the things you need to hear.
Unplug, walk away, take a breath…do it for the sake of everything and everyone that you love…and especially do it for you.
Your answers are in there…your calm, wise self is in there too…now, go find her…she’s been waiting patiently.
First of all….there’s just no way to ever explain my feelings about last week. I wish there were words that wrapped up a whole bunch of different words like peace and comfort and love and fun and safe and fantastic and blissful and surprising and awesome…….I wish there were words that meant all of those words wrapped all together…ya know? I always wish…when I am feeling this way…that EVERY SINGLE PERSON I LOVE could be there to experience it too…..so just know that as we start sharing all of these photos….that is the big wish…that everyone could be here…..we wish that more than anything. We have lots of good news coming soon about all of that…..but for now…….thanks for sharing with us…we never used to share photos from camp because all of our camps were sold out years in advance…now that we are having camp at least once a month…there are spaces to actually sign up so it’s so nice to feel like we can share and that if it works out for you to come…you know you are always invited……we sure hope you will come.
Remember the pot of nasturtiums I showed you a few weeks ago…with the new blossom on top of the flowers…..WELL….last week…during camp….EVERY ONE Of the hundreds of flowers and plants on the ranch exploded with blossoms and color……..like they were partying right along with us……….
Isn’t that awesome? Wish you could see all of the flowers. They would love you…and the butterflies…and the birds and the trees…they would all love you…I just know it.
Well..like i keep saying…we have hundreds of photos of the ranch, and of camp…and of all things lovely, true and beautiful…….and we are preparing a short little movie of all of those so you really CAN be here with us in a way…..but for now…here’s some shots of days 3 & 4 of camp….
Well…..it was HOT….especially on Thursday……….so we decided to take a little field trip in the bus and take all of our brave girls to our favorite place for cold drinks……..SONIC….here’s Patrice showing her excitement while Kathy and I are looking for traffic to make sure we can all safely cross the road
The bus is not painted yet….but it has been SO FUN to have it…it was surreal, hilarious and a blast to go on a little trip together like grade-schoolers……..and the perfect little break from all of the art makin’ and soul searchin’…..
Our mother, Myrna Jean, comes to every camp…aside from last October after she had her stroke…..she is all recovered and doing great. What you might not know about her is that she did all of the cool things that people do now before it was ever cool. We grew up on all organic food……we were doctored with natural remedies like garlic, aloe vera, colloidal silver and wheat germ…..she grew most of our food and made it all from scratch. She also taught us to use what we have to have a happy life………so all of my brothers and sisters are wildly creative, resourceful and happy with a simple life. She teaches everyone a camp a whole lot about having a happy life (as does my dad) and while we were all doing our art….she did her art…she carves absolutely beautiful walking sticks for everyone she loves…….sometime I will gather them all up and photograph them so you can see her beautiful work. She shared much wisdom, love and light at camp and everyone who has met her over the last 3 years loves her…..so I knew you all would love these photos of her….
We ate lunch under the tent out in the grove…..and that was fun…..it was all just so fun…so beautiful…..
We went for gorgeous walks by the river and saw beautiful things…mostly each other’s souls….
We found tons of heart rocks…..especially Caroline…..she couldn’t stop finding them…..
The sunsets and sunrises seemed to be showing off for us every single day…..
There were soulful, comforting messages EVERYWHERE….in the sky, in the flowers, in each other’s faces…even hidden in piles of rocks….
The food was made with so much love, beauty and artistry…..so much that you couldn’t help but taste it and feel it in every single bite…
Music is always a big part of camp….and without telling you some of our camp “secrets” that we always want to stay special for the campers……..I do want to tell you that the music is healing, beautiful, fun and awesome. Kathy sings like an angel and her songs are one of the millions of gifts that she so freely gives at camp……
Ahhhhhh….the relationships. I always wish that everyone could see what we see from this side……the way things are the day that everyone comes compared to the way things are just a few days later…..strangers are suddenly friends and sisters…..there are no titles or cliques or barriers……there is nothing to hold each other back from being safe, real and loved……it is the most beautiful thing to watch these deep relationships develop….and after 3 years we have seen the campers continue to love, take care of, look out for, protect and support each other….I think it might be my very favorite part of brave girls club….the way you all take care of each other….
signs of love were everywhere…….just everywhere….
Because the art barn is several times bigger than the art room we used to have….I actually had a spot to make art all week…….I worked on a big painting and I got to sit with some fantastic soul-sisters who I now consider friends……..there is something very special and wonderful and easy about sitting and making art together…..there is nothing like it in the whole world….
I will have so much more to say about this whole experience….this whole journey…….this whole miracle…..but I am gonna kinda beg you right now to stop for a second and think about what you REALLY REALLY REALLY want….because I want you to believe in it…….and work toward it…and fall in love with it like it is real already……..but most of all, believe in it so strongly that it is impossible for it to not come alive….
You might think it would be strange or odd or uncomfortable to have strangers in my home for the week….it absolutely was not. My home is safe and lovely and filled with love…….and having these precious souls here made it even more so……I can still feel their hearts…..my family has been touched by their amazingness…..their life force….I felt honored to have them here and can not wait to do it again. Today my daughter Madi said….”Mom, I wish we could have camp here EVERY week.” …..we all loved it!
Sharing this whole revolution…this whole movement…this whole way of life with every generation of our family is something that Kathy and I feel deeply grateful for every day…..that our daughters and our nieces and our granddaughters will learn so many lessons so young…before life can beat them up so much………this all is just the biggest blessing…
Here are the brave girls of June 2012…..they are special, unique, miraculous, adored and wonderful……they could be any one of YOU….we all love each other after a few days of being unplugged long enough to really look into each others eyes and SEE each other…..to sit quiet long enough to HEAR our own souls talking to us…….to be together long enough to realize that we really are all the same when it comes down to it….we all just want to be loved….we want to love….we want to be accepted as we are…we want to be safe…we want to make a difference…..we want permission to just BE……we don’t want to play games, or feel like we have something to prove…….we just want to have a happy life……we are just like you….we are all just like you…and me….we sooooo wish you could have been here with us…..we all talked a lot, and a lot of times about all of the other brave girls of the world…….they even wrote notes to all of you….for reals…
but first…we all made a commitment to let go of every single day that ever existed before today….but we didn’t just make a commitment to let it go…we decided to let it become something beautiful….we decided to let our past go and let it have a new life………so we each wrote it all down and planted a tree on top of it….and now even the old painful things can become something else…………and all together….we are nourishing a tree……
We had a beautiful party on the last night of camp….we spoke goodbyes to each other…we sang funny and sweet songs to each other………
and then we burned everything we are done holding on to in the fire…..
At midnight it was time to say goodbye………so everyone wrote a note to every other brave girl of the world…and we collaged it to the ceiling of the bus…someday there will be thousands of messages from brave girls worldwide plastering the ceiling of the bus……..but for now…it started with these beauties…………everyone looks kinda sad in this photo…because we were saying goodbye….and hoping that someday we would be together again…
Here’s some of the messages from your brave girl sisters worldwide…
What we hope is that someday YOU will be here to leave a message………..just know that you are not alone…..there’s a whole lot of other girls who are JUST LIKE YOU…who are rooting for you, believing in you….hoping for good and beautiful things for your life….hoping that you will be brave enough to take big and small steps toward your dreams.
Today the local brave girl staffers came over and we cleaned up. We put everything away….we swept and we polished the glass and we folded the tablecloths and we talked about all of our new friends…..we told stories and we laughed and we even cried a little thinking about the girls we just met and welcomed into our lives and hearts…..then my friends left and I went out to the bus…….and felt kinda sad when I saw all of the empty seats.
Just want you all to know we really do think about you. We root for you. We know life is hard and we know you are aching for better days….we know that you are doing what it takes and we know sometimes you think you are the only one.
We have done enough camps now to know for sure that there are SO MANY BEAUTIFUL SOULS out there…and that none of us every deserve to be treated with anything but kindness, love, acceptance and support………..thank you SO MUCH for being so good to each other…for being good to us. Thanks for riding the wild bus of fun adventures with us. We hope to see you very soon.
p.s. my first tomato turned red today….I picked it and it was shaped like a heart. SIGNS OF LOVE EVERYWHERE. Life is so good. Seek it out…it is there.
Dear Brilliant Girl,
Words are powerful. It is really amazing how a grouping of sounds made with air coming through our throats, over the position of our tongue and through our teeth and lips, can have such a huge impact….it’s just air and sound waves! So…..what is it about words?
Written words hold so much of the same power…sometimes more. How is it that a combination of shapes and lines put together can have so much power?
This leaves us with an important responsibility. We need to be careful with something that has this much power.
We need to watch carefully the words that come from our mouths….and SO carefully the words we let pass into our ears, sweet friend.
We need to be SO VERY CAREFUL to be choosy about the words that meet our eyes off of paper, and then penetrate into our hearts….everything has an effect.
Look for good, true and beautiful messages, and only let those in. THEN, formulate good true and beautiful messages from your heart…and ONLY let those out…..
Because words are powerful. Words have power to heal, and they have power to destroy. Words have power to clear things up and power to confuse. Words have power to create a feeling of light and hope…or a feeling of darkness and despair.
Choose them wisely…both coming and going….YOUR SOUL IS SO IMPORTANT.
You are so very loved.
Dear Confused Girl,
It’s ok to be confused. Life is confusing sometimes.
When you sit down and try to figure some of life’s mysteries out, things sometimes even get more confusing. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to know why things are happening the way they are, and how you got into the middle of all of the things that are happening. Yes, life can be so confusing. One thing is sure though, that all of those funny little “coincidences” and crazy bouts of perfect timing, and wild collisions. Those were not accidents.
Look back at the very best things that have happened in your life, moments and experiences and relationships that made you better, or taught you immeasurable lessons or were stepping stones to the best places. Think of those things. Then, think about all of the miraculous encounters, the unexpected twists and turns and the funny unplanned things that made those exact parts of your life happen, the way it all came together. It would be very hard to argue that THAT many coincidences happened to get you EXACTLY where you are supposed to be now.
You are looked after perfectly. There is a plan for you. There are calculations and plans and strategies and chance meetings being set up constantly in your behalf. It looks so confusing, but really, it’s perfectly thought out and someday it will all make sense. It will be made clear to you. Be patient with it. Breathe through it.. Trust. When it’s hard to feel good about it…just look at how far you’ve come and all of the things that had to happen to get you where you are today.
You are loved and known and needed and don’t let anyone or anything ever tell you anything different.