Here are the things that you need to ask yourself before you are planning to get married.
- “Is there something I’m not willing to give up once I’m married?”
Don’t consider this as a trick question. It will help you set boundaries — one of the most important things in a healthy relationship and marriage. In marriage, being compassionate and loving with one another, including respecting what each person needs to thrive, is crucial to co-creating a sustainable relationship. Boundaries come in all sizes and shapes, big and small.
- “Am I happy and content to be in this relationship?”
The idea of sharing a whole, new life together is not about finding someone that can make you happy. But, if the two of you are always fighting, and you’re generally not feeling very great about being with your partner, that’s clearly not good.
- “Am I in a balanced relationship?”
Do you think the both of you are on the same page in terms of support, sacrifice and care? Or is one of you doing most of the loving and giving, while the other person just sits with his or her hands out?
- “Are we having fun together?”
Have you ever seen two individuals sleeping on the same bed, and eating lunch together but not having fun? Laughing and enjoying time together are parts of maintaining a good, healthy marriage.
- “Why am I a part of this relationship?”
Is it because you trust, value and love the other person? Or is it because you’re worried about your finances or scared of being alone?
- “Do I really trust my special someone?”
For some people, the immediate response to this question can be devastating. Is there a way to strengthen your trust to one another? Without trust, there is no chance of having a happy, healthy marriage.
- “Am I attracted to my special someone?”
Physical attraction is not really the most crucial factor in a relationship. However, forcing yourself to be with a person you’re not attracted to is bad. They’ll feel rejected, and you’ll feel resentful.
- “Is this relationship fair?”
When planning your marriage, decide how you will split finances and other important things. If another person is always providing more, you may want to reassess things. An unbalanced relationship can bite you.
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