“Why are misogynistic comments toxic?” is a question that is asked by many women on the Internet. A lot of people are on the Internet now, especially those with Time Internet, so people are more exposed to this. The reason for this question is because there has been a lot of public discussion about the various reasons why women are often targeted by men in the online community as well as in the offline world. However, most of these discussions often fail to ask one very important question: where does the disconnect lie between the Internet and offline life? In other words, why is it that attitudes towards women in the offline and online communities are so radically different?
As it turns out, the very core of why misogynistic remarks are harmful lies in the very core of what society views as normal. The fact is that whenever men get together with other men, they express all sorts of emotions including feelings of longing, affection, desire, lust, and even jealousy. In fact, the only reason that such feelings are expressed is that they would like to be around other men who express similar emotions. However, when these men get together with other women they immediately feel threatened and anxious because such women are also women who come from a relatively “low-ranking” position in the social hierarchy.
As a result, whenever a man makes a comment like “you are so sexy” or “that girl is so sexy”, he is engaging in something that is deeply rooted in his personality. This very fact leads to the next question, “why does the disconnection occur?”. It occurs because the men’s fear of not being able to control themselves causes them to lash out in a manner that is frequently counterproductive to the greater good. For instance, if a woman makes a negative comment about how poorly behaved some guys are in a relationship then the guy gets angry and thinks that she is criticizing him. If he doesn’t have some sort of control over his anger he may do things that he regrets later on down the road.
This brings us to the third and most important reason why misogynistic comments are toxic. That is when you allow yourself to be consumed by these sorts of sentiments you allow your mind to become contaminated. You allow other thoughts to become dominant in your mind and that is something that you don’t really want to happen. It can easily lead you to engage in behaviours that you would not otherwise do.
Now, consider for a moment how toxic it can be in a relationship if a man gets angry with a woman simply because he feels that she’s taking liberties with him. He doesn’t even necessarily think that what he’s upset about is anything but normal. In many ways, he views it as a victory when a woman leaves him because it’s now easier for him to move on without her.
This is exactly why it is so easy for a man to abuse another man. The fact is that when you allow your man to become emotionally unstable that he becomes the kind of person who cannot be trusted in a relationship. It’s not that he doesn’t love you or that you’re some kind of prize that he’s trying to get. It’s that for whatever reason, emotionally, he just can’t handle you anymore. And once he has lost you, he will do almost anything he can to get back at you.
How does this affect you? Well, to a large extent, it affects you in the same way that it would if you were the victim of a violent attack. It forces you to question your own motives for tolerating this man in your life. Not only that but you are forced to question the motivations of others for enjoying his company and association.
All in all, you can see that why misogynistic comments are toxic is because you are allowing yourself to be used by someone you should have no respect for. He is not a friend; he is not your lover. He is a predator who will tear your heart apart, just like he has done to others. Stop allowing him to destroy your life; make him regret every ounce of venomous words he sends your way.